"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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SupaPowa

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Hey guys.
Now I know people have been telling me not to go for a girl at work. But just a couple days ago ANOTHER super hot awesome waitress got hired and started working where I work. I met her, introduced myself and made a strong first impression.
But here's the thing. This guy I work with who's taller and has experience with girls made two things clear to me today.
1. He has a HUGE crush on this new employee.
2. He plans to "go" for it.

Now being the guy who's also kinda interested in this girl, BUT has NO experience with girls and is recovering from over 20 years of being beaten back down to "Beta" by those around him...What should I do?
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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Huffman

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Forget the guy and focus on the girl. She'll make her pick anyway.

You think you can fight with the guy and the winner gets the girl? Nuh uh. Come on bro, you don't even know her and are already competing with another dude? What is she gonna think? That you are insecure and feel threatened easily? Spot on. So don't do it.

I used to lived in a mixed dorm where theres 100 guys to 20 girls. There were situations where there's a hot girl with 5 dudes around her trying to impress, beating on each other. I never did that and I ended up scoring more than is statistically probable in such a weinerfest.

So yeah. I actually don't understand how I sometimes can take a girl with me when there's loads of dudes who are cooler than me (or so I think), but hell, don't think about the other guys as a threat. And they will become harmless.
 

SupaPowa

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Huffman said:
Forget the guy and focus on the girl. She'll make her pick anyway.

You think you can fight with the guy and the winner gets the girl? Nuh uh. Come on bro, you don't even know her and are already competing with another dude? What is she gonna think? That you are insecure and feel threatened easily? Spot on. So don't do it.

I used to lived in a mixed dorm where theres 100 guys to 20 girls. There were situations where there's a hot girl with 5 dudes around her trying to impress, beating on each other. I never did that and I ended up scoring more than is statistically probable in such a weinerfest.

So yeah. I actually don't understand how I sometimes can take a girl with me when there's loads of dudes who are cooler than me (or so I think), but hell, don't think about the other guys as a threat. And they will become harmless.
Thank you
 

Aaron B

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you are choosing to focus on factors that are not yet relevant and may not become relevant

instead choose to focus on what you can actually control: your own actions

like Huffman, I too did well in college (quite by accident) when my peers showered the girls with attention and I ignored them for the most part.

Watching what most guys do, then never doing those things is a simple and effective strategy
 

Huffman

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Aaron B said:
Watching what most guys do, then never doing those things is a simple and effective strategy
Note: doesn't apply to all areas of life :D
 

"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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