"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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Voice Recorders

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Hey, I'd like to start recording approaches to study myself a little better. What kind of recorders have you guys had success with?
 

"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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I used to use an olympus digital voice recorder for my lectures back in college. It could be plugged into a USB port so it made the data transfer quite simple. I paid like 70 back then, and they make different models now with nicer features. Get something small and discreet, you don't want to blow your cover.

I necessarily don't think it will help your game. First off, you're going to be under more pressure than usual. Second off, what you say really doesn't matter as much as body language, kino and eye contact. But try it out anyways, see what happens. You'll probably just get a kick out of it.
 

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I think it could be a very useful exercise that most people don''t have the balls to try out. You'll be able to perfect your voice intonation, which I believe is a very important part of a cold approach.
 

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thanks for the advice. i've actually gone to a bootcamp, and am working with an instructor on conversational structure and escalation. having a direct transcript of my interactions will simply help the both of us get to the meat of what i need to work on faster. typically i agree that recording isn't all that great. plus, i think i really will get a big kick out of listening to how my ability to converse improves over the coming months.

although i am curious if there's anyone on here who's actually done this before. do i need to hide a mic on myself somewhere? how powerful are these things exactly?
 

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All you have to do is hit recorder and slip it into your front pocket on a dress shirt. If you don't wear dress shirts just put in your regular pocket with the top slightly sticking out. These mics will be able to pick up any close conversation even with loud music playing. I used to bootleg concerts with mine and you could hear conversations over music. Most of the mics have different sensitivity levels depending on the distance of the sound of you're trying to record. Send me the audio if you ever try it, I'd be interested to hear it, hehe.
 

"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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Okay, I have something to add now. I was jamming last night with the band, and I was listening to the way I normally speak after the recordings. I noticed certain things I say, that I don't think about that could come off as non-DJish, and this wasn't even towards women. True DJs know its not a switch you hit to become a DJ when an attractive lady is around. Its a complete state of mind 24-7, wherever you may be.

So my point is I recommend this to anyone. Just carry around a voice recorder and listen how you speak to people. You will notice things about your speech and personality that won't be proper. Examples: bragging, yelling, uneven/varying voice tone,etc.

Through this you may be able to fix a significant portion of your game. Final advice would be to think about what you say and say it slowly, and do not talk for the sake of talking. Silence is golden.
 

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SickAgain said:
So my point is I recommend this to anyone. Just carry around a voice recorder and listen how you speak to people.
I could see this being somewhat helpful. Especially for very shy people.

Second off, what you say really doesn't matter as much as body language, kino and eye contact
This is true but you would still be able to pick out how confident you were while speaking. Like I said before, I see this as being useful in the beginning stages; when you are working on your confidence.
 
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