"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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Voice Recorders

marinetti

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Hey, I'd like to start recording approaches to study myself a little better. What kind of recorders have you guys had success with?
 

"You Can't Argue a Woman Into Liking You"

You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.

She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.

Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.

Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.

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I used to use an olympus digital voice recorder for my lectures back in college. It could be plugged into a USB port so it made the data transfer quite simple. I paid like 70 back then, and they make different models now with nicer features. Get something small and discreet, you don't want to blow your cover.

I necessarily don't think it will help your game. First off, you're going to be under more pressure than usual. Second off, what you say really doesn't matter as much as body language, kino and eye contact. But try it out anyways, see what happens. You'll probably just get a kick out of it.
 

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I think it could be a very useful exercise that most people don''t have the balls to try out. You'll be able to perfect your voice intonation, which I believe is a very important part of a cold approach.
 

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thanks for the advice. i've actually gone to a bootcamp, and am working with an instructor on conversational structure and escalation. having a direct transcript of my interactions will simply help the both of us get to the meat of what i need to work on faster. typically i agree that recording isn't all that great. plus, i think i really will get a big kick out of listening to how my ability to converse improves over the coming months.

although i am curious if there's anyone on here who's actually done this before. do i need to hide a mic on myself somewhere? how powerful are these things exactly?
 

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All you have to do is hit recorder and slip it into your front pocket on a dress shirt. If you don't wear dress shirts just put in your regular pocket with the top slightly sticking out. These mics will be able to pick up any close conversation even with loud music playing. I used to bootleg concerts with mine and you could hear conversations over music. Most of the mics have different sensitivity levels depending on the distance of the sound of you're trying to record. Send me the audio if you ever try it, I'd be interested to hear it, hehe.
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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Okay, I have something to add now. I was jamming last night with the band, and I was listening to the way I normally speak after the recordings. I noticed certain things I say, that I don't think about that could come off as non-DJish, and this wasn't even towards women. True DJs know its not a switch you hit to become a DJ when an attractive lady is around. Its a complete state of mind 24-7, wherever you may be.

So my point is I recommend this to anyone. Just carry around a voice recorder and listen how you speak to people. You will notice things about your speech and personality that won't be proper. Examples: bragging, yelling, uneven/varying voice tone,etc.

Through this you may be able to fix a significant portion of your game. Final advice would be to think about what you say and say it slowly, and do not talk for the sake of talking. Silence is golden.
 

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SickAgain said:
So my point is I recommend this to anyone. Just carry around a voice recorder and listen how you speak to people.
I could see this being somewhat helpful. Especially for very shy people.

Second off, what you say really doesn't matter as much as body language, kino and eye contact
This is true but you would still be able to pick out how confident you were while speaking. Like I said before, I see this as being useful in the beginning stages; when you are working on your confidence.
 
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