spinaroonie
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The older you are as a virgin, the creepier you get.
Remember that.
Remember that.
I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.
The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.
Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
Some could argue that being on this website is the creepiest you can get.spinaroonie said:The older you are as a virgin, the creepier you get.
Remember that.
I am open minded and I am focusing on better myself. What the hell do you think I am planning a change of career and what exactly am I doing down the gym? I display a poor attitude when I am scrutinised and told I am pretty much worthless.synergy1 said:Sour grapes bro. Rather than focusing on improving, you hate on what you can not have. This is not a sign of mental fortitude, but rather ignorance and frustration. If this is how you communicate with other people, its no wonder you are a virgin still and wouldn't be a shock if you remained so indefinitely. Sorry, my post was intended for an unfortunate, yet open minded individual who was willing to work towards a better self. Rather, you are living in a delusional worldview which everyone and everything is crap.
Lose the attitude. You aren't better than anyone else. You don't get laid because you have a ****ty attitude. plain and simple.
Lastly, I don't see how you can compare a great gf to being a paratrooper. The two are mutually exclusive. That said, i would rather have a great gf rather than get shot at in Afghanistan.
synergy1 said:Your view is too binary. Either you are doing your profession OR are with women. You are either mentally "robust"* OR with women. You are either go karting OR with women. Do you realize how dumb that sounds? If you aren't looking for a girlfriend, than get laid. If you aren't looking to get laid, than stop posting and GTFO.
I promise you this: I am much smarter and in better shape than you are. Yet, I get girls. As for a girlfriend, I can agree that now isn't the best time for me. I still date from time to time, talk to women, and god forbid...have fun. To think you are somehow different/ better than people who get women is just ludicrous. STDs?? nope I am clean.
* Robust is a term for engineers. Don't use it thinking it'll make you look smart.
Attraction runs on a clock.
She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.
The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."
One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.
Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.
England.Noodles said:You've mentioned your country a few times. What country are you from?
You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.
For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.
Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.
The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.
Cheese eating, surrender monkey.BBbardot said:LOL at the virgin that "hates women and don't want to have to do anything with them", using the army to make himself feel and look manly.
this guy is more and more ridiculous.
also he clearly stated " **** women" a few times and " i don't want them" " why would i want them" several time too, now if this guy is not into guys either, he must be into dating goats
( wink to synergy)
So finally he lays down his arms and is willing to offer me advice. Guess what I am willing to learn from you, now you have dropped the vendetta against me.synergy1 said:i know i shouldn't be such a jerk. I'll stop my inflammatory nature and try to leave with some advice which might help the OP along.
Stop taking stuff so seriously. Stop looking at the world in black and white. Not everything is crap. Women aren't crap. You can succeed in life and succeed with women.
Why should I get laid?
Because its more fun than go karting?
This should lighten the mood :http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=fOwNgn9eq6U
Now we're talking. So you're looking at P-Coy? Oh...good boy. You couldn't want to join a bigger gang of benders and fags (they will say the same about my side of the fence - I'm a rubber dagger).FortunateSon said:England.