"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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Violin... or any other instrument?

Crazy Asian

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Hey guys.
Does anyone play an instrument seriously?

I play Violin myself.
I've been playing since I was 7.
Used to hate it, but now I love it.
It's something i get excited about everyday.
There are no good paying professions that are related to violin that I know of, so i guess i'll just have to suck it up and be an engineer/doctor or something.
I was thinking of getting a regular job, and then when i get enough money, start a violin company of some sort.

Anyone else care to share about their musical talents?
 

"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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I.A.F.Y.B.

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I've been playing electric and acoustic guitar since 7 years old. I'm 21 now so I got some practice under my belt. I love to play and learn new things but, sometimes I get out of playing it then, come back again.
 

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I'd love to learn violin, or any other non guitar string instrument. I'd probably fvck a cello up!! :D

I play drums, guitar, bass, and piano. It's been a dream of mine to do something music-related for my career. Unfortunately the way the music industry is now is making it harder for bands to really break out into mainstream anymore. Even live shows are becoming harder to do. But it's in my blood, and fvck it, I can never truly let that dream go.
 

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I played violin when I was in fourth grade and alto saxophone from fifth grade to my freshman year of high school. I could probably pick up my saxophone skills rather easily if I had one laying around and could remember how to read the sheet music. I presently own a Yamaha keyboard and am learning how to play it, because I am building a small studio for electronic music production.

Music is both a hobby and obsession. It's best left as a hobby to satisfy the obsession of music, and then after while if you can thrill and excite people with your music, then you can start to make a career out of it, but otherwise be satisfied with it being a hobby of passion.
 

"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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Aragon034

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play the keyboard a bit, used to play both trumpet and violin, and i'm learning the sax now.

My bro on the other hand is a professional level keyboardist. he's got one of the newer Korg keyboards right now (forget which one it is, but it's ridiculously complicated) and he plays excellently.
 

ready123

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just so you know, average engineering salary is well under 6 figures. and the coursework is heavy enough to turn you into a big nerd. so you make enough to be comfortable, but not enough to live lavvy

piano since i was 7, drums since junior high, plus a ton of hiphop gear (mpc, mv, etc)
 

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i've been playing the guitar for about 2.5 years. i love listening to music and hope to play small shows in a band one day. I don't think that I'll ever pursue being in a band for a profession.
 

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i've played the violin since I was in 4th grade.. I think that means since I was 9. they taught it at school and I played all though high school, for the youth sympthony. I started playing the piano a year later and that's my primary insturement of choice now.
 

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My buddy is an amazing violin player and makes a fair living. He basically just takes whatever gigs he can; he's in four different bands. He mentioned his best paying shows are in a DMB cover band, who usually get a decent crowd out.

Personally, I play the guitar, but it's only a hobby.
 

"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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i'll add. i haven't touched a violin in about 3 years, and I have no doubt i'm still a better violinst than pianoist.. and i'm a good pianinst
 

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I'm in the process of teaching myself both piano and electric guitar. Its pretty hard at least for me, but I'm loving every minute of it.
 

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Piano, guitar, drums, and bass for me :)
Ive been focusing mostly on the pinano lately.
 

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22 years of guitar under my belt. Just got my Les Paul out of the shop today. My cat knocked it over and cracked the neck right under the first fret.
 

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Started learning ocarina. I am feeling a bit limited coming from guitar... but always fun or frustrating!
 

"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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