Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.
Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.
Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers. Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.
I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.
Regular no sugar/preservative added grape juicewhat were you using for fructose? White grape juice probably has a decent balance between fructose & glucose... (i'm still learning about this stuff myself)
Thanks, I'll check that outIf you have brewing shops near you they might carry maltodextrin.
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
Vintovka said:Trying to increase the speed/explosivness I preform these, by the last set I'm moving super slow coming up. Last week was a 230 and 2 225's, so some progress there.
Military Presses
5x94
5x89
5x89
Argh, hate having to take a step backwards but my form needs work.
Pendley Row
5x120
5x120
5x120
Up 6 lbs, was expecting more but see above.
Assisted Chins
8x -88
4x -100
Boo, at least the first set was 6 lbs less assist.
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Thanks for the info Ruckus. With the MP, looking at the mechanics it seems that the anterior deltoid is the main mover and a pretty small muscle, mine has literally exploded in size, when I started you couldn't even tell I had one. Same for lats, I have zero at this point, but I'm getting stronger each time with the rows.mrRuckus said:All three of those are slow exercises to progress on. Especially chins where adding weight is easier than adding reps. And MP there isn't much of a base to push from so you might only be able to add 1 or 2 lbs per week.
When i was doing a 5x5 workout, i sucked at pendlays. Then when I changed to doing rows for 10 reps instead the wet went up quick and now i'm doing 10 lbs more weight for 10 reps than i did at 5 reps.
Yes indeed man, you gotta do what you gotta do. Keep up the good work, that's inspirational. So many people know what they gotta do but choose the path of least resistance. Laziness is so easy.Vintovka said:Taking this week off, been at it for 14 weeks so my body could use a breather I suppose. This gives me time to get adjusted to my new sleeping pattern and get accustomed to my school schedule.
Still walking for an hour every morning, have to get up before dawn some days to have time, which is pyschologically depressing for me, but you gotta do what you gotta do, heh.
Will be back in the gym on Tuesday
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
Attraction runs on a clock.
She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.
The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."
One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.
Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.