She says the movie looks dumb; you suddenly agree. She tests you with a little attitude; you apologize for nothing.
You think you're being easy to get along with. She reads something else entirely: a man with no edges. Nothing to hold on to. No friction, no tension, no reason to wonder what he really thinks.
The "22 Rules" taught me to push back — playfully, calmly, without needing her approval. Strange things happened after that.
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
Tough call, and a number of questions must be answered before I make my decision:Was that an AFC thing to do, or a DJ thing to do? Why?
So is it AFC or DJ to have a brain disorder????'Actually, if I remember right, Van Gogh mailed the ear to a prostitute. And he had a brain disorder, which might have had something to do with it.
Answer that question, and the mysteries of this site will stand revealed to you.Originally posted by Kaine
So is it AFC or DJ to have a brain disorder????'
I have a brain disorder and I'm not in pulling the chicks. I guess it's AFC to have a brain disorderOriginally posted by Giovanni Casanova
Answer that question, and the mysteries of this site will stand revealed to you.
She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.
Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.
The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.
wow u redeem yourselfOriginally posted by Marcopolo
Actually, it depends on the specific brain disorder. Generally speaking, people with APD or NPD (sociopaths) are top PUA's. So good in fact that they can be abusive and the women will stay with them, and some of them are even so good they can con women out of their life savings. Ted Bundy is another excellent example of a psychopath with top notch PUA skills. Of course, he used his skills to strangle women to death instead of to sleep with them like a normal PUA would.
Hmmmm... That sounds fun.Of course, he used his skills to strangle women to death instead of to sleep with them like a normal PUA would.
Attraction runs on a clock.
She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.
The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."
One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.
Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.
I am such an AFC. Now does me agreeing with your statement make me AFC or DJ?Originally posted by m4a1
A true DJ doesn't contemplate if something is DJ or AFC, and the fact that Giovanni Casanova made this topic shows that he's AFC, and if you disagree with this statement, then you're also AFC, no doubt.
Read the bible.
It makes you an rAFC. lol.I am such an AFC. Now does me agreeing with your statement make me AFC or DJ?
Thank God. I'm recovering.Originally posted by m4a1
It makes you an rAFC. lol.
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.