"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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Video Tape Yourself

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Thats just it, go video tape yourself. Tape yourself talking, walking, singing, doing housework, playing with the dog, cooking a pizza..whatever.

You wont believe what you see, or dont see. If you dont like what you see, you can start to change very easily.

If you are really feeling gutsy, hide the camera and video tape youself talking to a girl (dont go launching into a porno now...that can get you in trouble)

Peace out

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"Strength without determination means nothing, determination without strength is equally useless."
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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Tape-record almost anyone's voice, play it back for them, and they'll ask "Do I really sound like that?"

I'm used to hearing my voice on tape, I'm a vocalist, but seeing myself of video tape is a shock. "I look, move, gesture, and talk like THAT?"

Sometimes it is difficult to imagine what went wrong or right in a conversation when all of your clues come from person you're communicating with (and often, they're being very polite). It's difficult to see what you're doing wrong or right unless you can actually SEE what you're doing, or someone (besides her) is there to drop hints.

When I worked in sales, I was told that the closer I came to closing, the more I'd make this face and posture that communicated desperation. My shoulders would hunch, my eyes widen, and my eyebrows raise... had no idea I was doing this but when I finally saw what I had been told and made the change, I became more successful.

Imagine if you weren't aware that every time a woman gave you attention, you became so nervous and fidgety that you scared her away? You might go through life thinking that women didn't like you because you were too fat, ugly, or unintelligent - and while all of those things could be true about you, the reason behind your constant rejections would remain an enigma until someone clued you in OR you had an opportunity to witness it yourself.

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When I was in forensics (the speech one) I often taped and videotaped myself. It really is surprising to see yourself on tape and go "Holy ****! I can't believe I look/sound like that."

Through that I was able to change my posture, speaking style, etc. and be a little more convincing in my speech.
 

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Originally posted by Don-Wan Kenobi
You might go through life thinking that women didn't like you because you were too fat, ugly, or unintelligent - and while all of those things could be true about you, the reason behind your constant rejections would remain an enigma until someone clued you in OR you had an opportunity to witness it yourself.

DWK
That's true. That's truth in epic porortions.
 

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know why u sound different on tape? Its because you hear your voice after it traveled thru your skull thus changing it.

Not really dj stuff but it's an answer to one of life's common question. :D
 

"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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Originally posted by Le Parisien
This is so TRUE!

Try tape yourself dancing for example, you will notice right away what needs to be improved.
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This is a great idea.Improving one's dancing becomes easier as the person dancing will have a third eye view of exactly how they dance and how they are seen by other ppl

Taping oneself in pick ups and sarges is also a great way to improve a dj's voice & bodylanguage which is very important in a your game.
 
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