"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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Video of a 'pickup' from a girl's perspective!...

Guitar_Whizz

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Well I was browsing You Tube, and I found a really bizarre video.

It's a video of 3 girls sat in their car (probably college girls), chilling out, when some random guy comes and chats to them. Obviously this guy is 'hitting on' them, but he looks so dorky and afc!

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Q-yaWkiYb0w&feature=user

This guy surely CAN'T be a trained seducer!
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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Maxtro

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LOL that was um odd? He's obviously a n00b but he had guts to approach them. His mistake was letting the girls control the conversation. He ejected when he found out that they were 17, I wonder if he could have gotten anywhere?
 

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oh god... the crouching... the squirming... the pacing... the nervousness....

the cringeful horribleness of the sordid squirmishness!

(I am referring to the approach in the video..)

I may have to watch this video 20 times just to remind myself how it looks from their perspective when you're not a proud upright confident man.

Thanks G-whizz!
 

wjh

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Maxtro said:
I wonder if he could have gotten anywhere?
I would be willing to bet he could have.

He didn't have terrible natural game. He seemed fairly confident, albeit a bit quirky, and in largely control of the frame. I don't believe the girls led the entire conversation, they asked sh1t-test-type questions, but when he negged the girl in the passenger seat (you have a little girl face) she was quick to try to qualify herself (i don't have little girl boobs). His voice did project masculinity after all (with no hint of neediness).

I don't know why he didn't run anything on the girls in the back, they looked better.
 

"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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DJVladdy

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Hm he seemed like a normal guy, don't know why you guys are sh!tting on him so much. And technical, he's probably better than you i bet. He had an okay convo with the girls and projected masculinity/ some comfort... and did show show ANY neediness and desperation.
 

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Its interesting to notice how he said:

"I can bounce if you want", meaning he basically offered to leave if the girls wanted him to. They basically entreated him to stay!

The statement was both an indication of fear ("dont want to creep these girls out!") and also a threat ("Hey, I can leave at any time!").
It really makes clear what the dynamic is when he basically threatens to leave (just to show he's not a creep) and they basically ask him to stay.

I take back my criticism, I'm not in a place with my game to criticize this guy. I just thought the squirming and shamefulness was funny.
 

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isn't an AFC

I agree that he did a fairly good job. The set was in a car - his position wrt the set was very difficult. He seemed fairly confident,occasionally leaning towards the car.

He did not show any kind of neediness, I don't know you guys but that was not an easy set to approach.
 

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He had the guts to approach and held somewhat of a conversation for 10 minutes, which is better than nothing. As someone else mentioned, he had no hesitation to leave, the girls kept them there. Also, he left on his own when he found out their age, so props to him.

However, as someone else mentioned, he did have poor body language, which hurts from a bystander's perspective. I've seen much worse interactions before. Those girls seemed like the type that would obnoxiously antagonistic if they didn't want him around.
 

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Haha, when you guys said he left as soon as they said they're 17, you weren't kidding.
 

“The 22 Rules That Flip the Script With Women… And How You Can Use Them Tonight”

Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.

Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers.  Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.

I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.

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Props to the guy for approaching! Although his body language didn't display confidence, I still commend the guy for appraoching. I know I'd be shy as **** to approach a buncha girls in a car with a camera held at my face. The girls liked the attention! That's why they asked him to stay!
 

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Haha, the pacing, the shifty eyes, the rolled shoulders and the hands in the pockets, the overall sketch body language...

He didn't look like he was mackin ... he looked like he was hesitant to sell a 20 sack. :crackup:
 

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I don't think he did that bad of a job. He conversated with 3 girls in a car for 8 minutes. Of course he didn't have the best body language but given the situation I think he did ok. I think he should have asked for a number sooner and left if they didn't give it to him. I think he stuck around a little too long and I don't think it was the age thing but he picked up on that they were being little cvnts.

Its easy for us to be monday morning quarterbacks and knock on the guy, but I think he did a fairly good job.
 

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Pretty good, he looked pretty relaxed and didn't get blown out, and stayed calm even after fully knowing he was on camera. Stuck around too long, 8 minutes for what should be done in 2-3.
 
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they thought he was cute, thats why they were so playful with him despite he was what nerdy guys would call a "douche" LOL
 

"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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