"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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video killed my chances?

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me and a friend were filming a video after school. in the video, im supposed to act like a retard and talk to random people and have it be believable (my friend was taping it secretly). it was for sh**s and giggles but then i started talking to this one girl. she was actually pretty cool too and i would like to talk to her again. but the thing is, she probably thinks im an idiot caus i was acting that way for the video. i know it was stupid to keep going with the act, and i know i should have stopped and been myself. do i have any chance at all and what should i do when i see her again?
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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Triple T

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carreyreincarnate1 said:
do i have any chance at all and what should i do when i see her again?
Show her the video with the part of you and her. Explain what you were doing. She'll laugh for sure if its funny, and you guys can go from there. :up:
 

"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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but she already thinks im an idiot. don't girls make up their minds about you in the first meeting? sounds sketchy...
 

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Its nice idea to show her the video . She will laugh and youll come as a cool/interesting guy :D.

What bothers me is that you carry too much if you still have time to impress her . Thats where she will smell your neediness .Cmon girl , this world (fortunately) its full of HB , b!tches , ho's :D .

Keep doing it again , approaching strangers for camera of whatever you want ( give a reason to yourself to approach ) but this time dont act like a retard .
 

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if a my friend ever released a video like that i'd be pretty pissed off
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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