I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.
The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.
Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.
Its ok if youre glad with taking whatever you can get lol. Thats the problem with most men. Just say that youre ok with banging recently jizzed in poon. I dont think any man has a complex just because he doesnt want a chick who recently had some other dudes penis in her. Its more of a gross out factor and health issue for me.Vice said:Not going to argue with you anymore. Your assumptions are beyond silly. Glad I don't have your complex.
dude it just burns for about 1-2 weeks then goes away. not that big of a dealJaylan said:Its ok if youre glad with taking whatever you can get lol. Thats the problem with most men. Just say that youre ok with banging recently jizzed in poon. I dont think any man has a complex just because he doesnt want a chick who recently had some other dudes penis in her. Its more of a gross out factor and health issue for me.
Most men wouldn't want a woman who's been recently fvcked... the problem is - It's very safe to assume any halfway decent looking woman has at least one guy who she's banging on a regular bases (she will normally drop this guy if she finds someone to get serious with or someone to fvck her better).Jaylan said:Its ok if youre glad with taking whatever you can get lol. Thats the problem with most men. Just say that youre ok with banging recently jizzed in poon. I dont think any man has a complex just because he doesnt want a chick who recently had some other dudes penis in her. Its more of a gross out factor and health issue for me.
Attraction runs on a clock.
She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.
The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."
One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.
Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.
This is essentially what I was going to post. But Jaylan has his own limiting beliefs that I don't think will allow him to get over this, at least for a while. More girls for me then. At least we have an idea of how some guys approach women, that was fascinating.bukowski_merit said:Most men wouldn't want a woman who's been recently fvcked... the problem is - It's very safe to assume any halfway decent looking woman has at least one guy who she's banging on a regular bases (she will normally drop this guy if she finds someone to get serious with or someone to fvck her better).
So short of having a doctor inspect her for recent "jizz" - you're not going to know if ANY woman you're with has been recently jizzed in. They aren't all going to give you 'tells'. They aren't all going to be upfront about it (although i've heard of women flatly telling guys they couldn't have sex with them because they'd already had sex with someone that day.)
(Interesting note: sperm survives inside a woman for 3-5 days on average... sometimes longer (7 days) if she's ovulating; sometimes shorter (2 days) if she's not. Not sure anyone here has the "woman reading" ability to know if a woman has been banged without a condom in the last 3-5 days.)
As far as health issues: Unless you're making every woman you have sex with take a STD test; or banging nothing but true virgins - your health is always at risk when having sex... And those std tests aren't 100% accurate.
And... She could always end up being clean when she takes the test and then banging someone behind your back and catching something (im pretty sure someone on here caught something from his WIFE.)
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
Fvck I wish I was younger and back in school.Vice said:She touched my leg today and kept it there LOL
Right after I told her about this party i went to over the weekend
Or maybe after i invited her to an event and told her to bring her friends and her boyfriend.
Shes always smily when we pass in the halls and stuff
Vice said:A quick note: I think she wasn't into me because I kept trying to qualify myself with my stories about the Air Force.
My looks DO get the door open, and I have had girls show interest in me lately because of them. At this time it's mostly girls that I'm not that into LOL but as I work out more and more they start getting cuter. At a gay club I had a girl pinch my ass constantly, but she wasn't pretty enough to mess around with LOL. It's a good confidence booster though.backseatjuan said:Dude, I saw you over skype, you saw me over skype, unshaven and tried as fack - I get women looking at me like that, just pick the one I like. You shouldn't have any problems with women, with your looks, it should be any woman you want is yours, I have no clue why you have to qualify yourself with stories. I think you should be getting raped every time you step out of the house by groupies in lingerie that waited you all night in bushes.
Ever try to set the game aside and just chit chat to them and see where it goes?
I don't really like Ukranian/Russian girls in the US because they're materialistic and status wh*res (but I'd sleep with them) and native Ukrainians want to get married too much.backseatjuan said:My advice man, get a Ukrainian girl, because you're Ukrainian, merry and have a bunch of children. After all, can you even picture yourself with a latino, pardon afterican american, or just an american. Those women are different, spoiled, feminists, etc. Anything but real, and they can't cook. I'll quote Ice Cube, or too short, I forgot who, you'll be washing my draws and cooking me meal more than I fak. Why mess with low quality statues that can't do anything but look mediocre?!
I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.
The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.
Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.
Lol..as an acne sufferer I must call out this bullsh!t. She could be the healthiest eater in the universe and still have horrible skin. It's more of a genetic issue than anything else.I can tell she doesn't eat healthy because I can see the breakout she covers up with foundation.
I don't know man, "eating healthy" to me and "eating healthy" to you might be two vastly different things.JoeMarron said:Lol..as an acne sufferer I must call out this bullsh!t. She could be the healthiest eater in the universe and still have horrible skin. It's more of a genetic issue than anything else.
I've been cheated on and also been the guy that the girl cheated with... I'm over it.PairPlusRoyalFlush said:If its your experience that women lie about having boyfriends often then I can't argue with it. I haven't personally experience that too often. These cheating ho's just make me sick to be honest, I've gone down that road before.
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.