Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.
Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?
You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.
Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.
You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.
Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.
She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.
Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.
That is the exact WRONG thing to do. You dont EVER want to act defensive b/c it makes you looks weak, like you are trying to live up to your accuser. Instead, here are good ideas:DJDamage said:If it is towards a guy " are you jealous of me"?
If it is towards a girl " are you jealous of her?"
Its not being defensive its another way of using C&F (saying it jokingly with a smirk) and shifting the spotlight back to the accuser and making him/her be defensive.dap said:That is the exact WRONG thing to do. You dont EVER want to act defensive b/c it makes you looks weak, like you are trying to live up to your accuser.
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
Winner.dap said:That is the exact WRONG thing to do. You dont EVER want to act defensive b/c it makes you looks weak, like you are trying to live up to your accuser. Instead, here are good ideas:
SOME GUY: "Hey, you like HB, don't you Comback Kid"
YOU (with a big smile on your face): "haha, how did you know?"
this just throws it back in his face, like you dont care what either of them think.
Or, if you feel like you need to neg the girl, try this:
SOME GUY: "Hey, you like HB, don't you Comback Kid"
YOU (with a big smile on your face): "haha, sure i like you. You remind me of my little sister."
Yea this is perfect. You don't wanna hide your intentions or brush it off. This is the way to go.dap said:That is the exact WRONG thing to do. You dont EVER want to act defensive b/c it makes you looks weak, like you are trying to live up to your accuser. Instead, here are good ideas:
SOME GUY: "Hey, you like HB, don't you Comback Kid"
YOU (with a big smile on your face): "haha, how did you know?"
this just throws it back in his face, like you dont care what either of them think.
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.