"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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very newbie rafc question

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I need some tips for approaching in loud enviroments. Im thinking specifically of a very loud mall. Ive never had a very loud voice, and although there are other ways I could stop a group, I wouldnt be able to keep them interested at all w/o being able to talk to them.

Should I just work on talking louder? Does anybody know some voice exercises that could help with that? I want to work on getting a more powerful voice anyway so this could be helpful.

Im going to be taking singing lessons soon, so that should help, but something I could do now would be awesome.

Thanks thanks!

Z

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Annother question. Im working on packaging my life now in story form in a way I can pieces of it when I need to. I have alot of stories that would be..self depreciating. (like the fact that I was playing a single MMORPG video game for 5 years 8+ hours a day:( ..) Im wondering If I should even bother talking about stuff like that.
 

"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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johnmich

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5 years, 8+ EVERY DAY ??

thats like my little bro. He sits on the PC all day and all night and never goes out. Hes nearly 16 and hasnt had a beer yet WTF?

~ ONE exercise you can do is open you mouth and go aaahhh. Then close your mouth and start going hhmmmmmm. try getting it so that your nose and throat resinate and vibrate and practice talking at a similar pitch
 

Zog

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Thanks for the voice exercise.

Yeah I did way to much. It was deffinetly a mistake, but I only slightly regret it.

If you wanna try and get your lil bro to do other things try this...Start bringing him out and teaching him social interactions as If it was a video game. RPG video games all have skills that you pump up by using them. Thats the comparasion I made for myself that helped me with a few things. Come to think of it..maybe I will try thinking like that with my current issues with going out and practicing game.
 

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I actually prefer not to operate in loud environments. I just find that I can't be bothered with all the noise.

However, you should note that a louder environment will work to reduce the importance of WHAT you say in comparison as to HOW you say it - in other words, body language and kino increase in proportional importance.
 

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This could lead to having to lean in for her to hear you. Close is good ;)
 

"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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i agree with luscious also if you don't have a loud voice that might not be the place for you if you want to approach go somewhere where there are girls working like at a local a grocery a big one like kroger and start talking if it is crazy **** that's what i don't it gets girls laughing but sometimes when you approach you'll get a *****y type of girl like i'm too good for you or to clean toilets just **** these girls and move on and one day you'll be a big pimp like me
 
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