"You Can't Argue a Woman Into Liking You"

You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.

She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.

Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.

Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.

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samspade said:
I've had plenty of fun workplace flings. However! They always happened because the female threw herself at me. Moreover I never had mother in the same office...that would probably keep me from messing with things. In a nutshell, I never asked out a coworker that I banged (didn't have to) and I certainly would never, ever ask the mom about it.

If the 19 year old goes crazy for you and her mom somehow signals her approval (not sure how this would happen) then maybe consider it. But you cannot ask out the daughter and you cannot ask the mother. In fact if you even want to simply up her interest level you have to come across as someone who wouldn't think of such a thing while still being attractive. Yes, this also means spin other plates and be obvious about it. Basically be the attractive 41 year old gentlemen with the interesting dating life. And if you do that you probably won't need any of this nonsense anyway.
Yes indeed that is exactly what I have decided to do, pretty much to the letter that you wrote. :up: Still gonna have some fun in the office with this chick. Mom and I were also tag team busting on her today. it was a blast!
 

"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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