"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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samspade said:
I've had plenty of fun workplace flings. However! They always happened because the female threw herself at me. Moreover I never had mother in the same office...that would probably keep me from messing with things. In a nutshell, I never asked out a coworker that I banged (didn't have to) and I certainly would never, ever ask the mom about it.

If the 19 year old goes crazy for you and her mom somehow signals her approval (not sure how this would happen) then maybe consider it. But you cannot ask out the daughter and you cannot ask the mother. In fact if you even want to simply up her interest level you have to come across as someone who wouldn't think of such a thing while still being attractive. Yes, this also means spin other plates and be obvious about it. Basically be the attractive 41 year old gentlemen with the interesting dating life. And if you do that you probably won't need any of this nonsense anyway.
Yes indeed that is exactly what I have decided to do, pretty much to the letter that you wrote. :up: Still gonna have some fun in the office with this chick. Mom and I were also tag team busting on her today. it was a blast!
 

"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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