"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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I have never been a big fan of internet chat stuff and forums because I always figured that it would attract losers. What I mean is, if a guy is such a master of seduction, why would he be in here every night? You know what I mean?

I have to say however that some of the responses I received did seem to make sense and did give me perspective that I may have required.

I think I am wired wrongly. I have ...apparently...according to my psychiatrist, an over active conscience and very low levels of psychopathy. This makes me absolutely pathetic as a Don Juan.

Apart from that, hell, I have always flirted with girls, always said hello and always been close, but now I think I am an AFC. The most annoying thing is, half these women tell me, retrospectively that they DID have feelings for me but I never acted on them. I would like to meet any Aussie here if they want to so that they can attest that, in reality, I look pretty good. I am not Brad Pitt but not that far off. If he is 10, I would be 7 or 8...once again..this is based on feedback from females.

YET, I have never had much luck with women, I had a couple of flings, two serious? relationships and one marriage. Some guy in here suggested that I TURNED her into a NON sex machine. He further suggested that I WLL ALWAYS do that. My biggest problem is that I think he may be right.

The problem does lie with me, now, where to start to fix it??????????????????????????????
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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Originally posted by Sart
I have never been a big fan of internet chat stuff and forums because I always figured that it would attract losers. What I mean is, if a guy is such a master of seduction, why would he be in here every night? You know what I mean?

Thats because everyone on the net are computer geeks, as is this entire forum. All of us are geeky, smell, have thick glasses and have no clue with woman. No comparison to mr Brad Pitt here.

In all seriousness, over the period I have been here I have posted under 2 posts a day. That consists of a few minutes every day to come here, scan the topics and post my comments trying to help out the newbs. At first I was asking for advice, but right now I think i have it pretty much under control.

Not to mention, a lot of my posts are on both the anything else and health and fitness forums also.

As far as helping yourself, read the DJ bible. Not the entire thing by all means, but the parts you think may help you. Pooks posts would probably help you a lot. (even though I personally dont read them, I have heard they are good for feminine men), no offence intended. Other than that, post and ask questions as you go.

Good luck!
 

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Clooney

Actually, to be honest, I figured you for a reasonable person anyway. I know that some people in here will be Don Juan types, but others will be, well, it is cyber town huh?

Thanks for the tip, I am not feminine, I am a football player, but I have serious problems emotionaly and I think it is because of my feminine side, and perhaps a little OCD to boot.

Thanks for your feedback. YOU, I would listen to.
 

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dj bible

I probably should get that DJ Bible.
 

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Sart... That thing that the psychologist said has nothing to do with your own beliefs (I've got my psychology degree..needed it to be a hypnotherapist..so I know what i'm talking about).

A Don Juan is a way of thinking (you were taught how you think currently), and now, you have to program yourself the way you want to be!

Now that you know there is NOTHING wrong with you, you can move forward and change by reading the DJ bible and asking questions and making mistakes as you learn and go through life.

Isn't that what it's all about?

Remember you need both rain and sunshine to make a rainbow!

Good luck on your quest
 

"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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