"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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So I've brought back 2 girls the past 2 nights. We start getting crazy, she goes down on me/I go down on her and I start ****ing her. I feel fine at first and the next thing you know I'm flaccid as a noodle. Playing it off, I told her it's the alcohol and she goes down on me again and I get hard again. I start ****ing her and it happens again within 2 minutes! Worst of all THIS HAPPENED 2 NIGHTS IN A ROW! WTF?!

I had a GF 2 months ago and RARELY had this problem.

Now, here is the thing. I did a cycle of an oral steroid about a month ago (Havoc). It's mild, so it really shouldn't be that suppressive. I cycled off properly and everything.

I'm also thinking it could be that emotionally I'm just not ready to have sex with other women BUT I don't think this is the problem (I've been horny as hell both times just to go soft)

THIS SUCKS! What should I do?
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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PHAT Rabbit said:
I highly doubt this is your problem - men are not driven by emotions to orgasm, that is physiology strictly pertaining to women. Men are driven to inseminate as many healthy vaginas as humanly possible, that is the point of our orgasm (to ejaculate).

Women orgasm for different reasons - favor one sperm over the other, remake her filter, fight off infection. To know when to do so in proper situations she uses her mysterious emotional swings.

You may have an anatomical issue, but in the face of so little information how could anyone on this board be up to the task of answering your question?
Go to a doctor. People on a website that are not doctors are NOT the best to help you.

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I had a gf for a year and when we broke up, i had a similar issue you have. I couldn't really get fully hard with the first few girls i hooked up. I think it was a big change having sex with random girls so i think i was just a lil nervous at first. eventually i became used to banging randoms:) and i didnt have that problem anymore.

I dont really recommend this but when i did have that problem i took some cialis(same as viagra) and it gives u a raging hard on. it was a quick fix at that time. you can easily buy it online, its not that hard to get.

in your case i think the steroids is playing a role in your decreased testosterone levels. right after a cycle u need to do a PTC cycle so your test levels dont drop so much. you can buy these over the counter. I think its a combo of these two. the more comfortable u get with one night stands the better of you'll be
 

"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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Sandow said:
I had a gf for a year and when we broke up, i had a similar issue you have. I couldn't really get fully hard with the first few girls i hooked up. I think it was a big change having sex with random girls so i think i was just a lil nervous at first. eventually i became used to banging randoms:) and i didnt have that problem anymore.

I dont really recommend this but when i did have that problem i took some cialis(same as viagra) and it gives u a raging hard on. it was a quick fix at that time. you can easily buy it online, its not that hard to get.

in your case i think the steroids is playing a role in your decreased testosterone levels. right after a cycle u need to do a PTC cycle so your test levels dont drop so much. you can buy these over the counter. I think its a combo of these two. the more comfortable u get with one night stands the better of you'll be
Yeah I don't really understand what's going on. I CAN get wood in the morning for awhile, but when it comes down to intercourse It just SUCKS.

Alcohol might be playing a large part here also, as I've been pretty intoxicated the 2 nights (but I never had that problem before). I've been off the steroid for a month and did a correct PCT and everything.. I don't know why it would still be affecting me.

It's just tough because I know I'm going out tonight and I'll see the same girls who want to ****.. and to be honest I really don't know if the 3rd time is going to be a charm.
 

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I tell you now it's down to the alcohol, i've wasted more than 5 and less than 10 ons's cause of alcohol.
 

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Go to a doctor and tell them about it, who knows, you might even get cialis or viagra....that will make sure you never go flaccid again :p
 

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Sir Juanalot said:
Was her vag a bit like waving your arm up an alleyway?
Ha ****, come on I've been in a decent amount of *****. Nah, they were both average.. not too tight not too big.
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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Alot of my bro's that hit the gear have had this problem atleast once in a while. Keep a couple Cialis handy. I'm not a doc but if you can handle the juice etc you can more than likely handle an ED pill.
 
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Hears the answer - it's mental. The reason you didn't have the problem with your ex is because you were more comfortable with her because you were in a longer relationship and you didn't have performance anxiety. Now with this new chick you are out to impress so you get a little nervous because you are thinking about it too much - so the second time it happened again because of performance anxiety -- you are psyching yourself! Be calm - although since it happened twice you are more nervous than ever - so it perpetuates itself!
 

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demonic said:
I tell you now it's down to the alcohol, i've wasted more than 5 and less than 10 ons's cause of alcohol.
This has happened to me too. How old are you OP? When I was younger, 18-20, I could literally be staggering down my hallway stoned and drunk and still be able to bang a girl for quite a while. However after getting older and getting drunk more often, I too have wasted ONS's from being super drunk and trying to get it on at 4 in the morning.

Also, people who have used much milder "supplement" cycles like 1AD have said they continued to have libido problems months after using, and some said their libido never returned to normal. I read that on a forum, I did a lot of research into prosteroids when I was considering taking them but after my research I decided to stay all natural.

LMS is right too, it could also be anxiety, or you expecting it to happen. It could be any of these things or a combination. Are you jerking off? If you are, stop. Thats what helped me. Also drink much less alcohol <3 drinks, and try to be in that situation earlier than super late night like 2-4am. This happened to me twice with the same girl, the third time I didn't drink that night as opposed to being wasted, and took her back to my house at 12am instead of 3-4am. I pounded it for an hour! it was great vindication. For me it was just realizing that I can't drink mass amounts of alcohol and expect to get it up at the end of the night like when I was 18 or 20. Drink less, **** earlier in the night. And don't jerk off for at least a week or two prior if you can help it.
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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