"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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So I've brought back 2 girls the past 2 nights. We start getting crazy, she goes down on me/I go down on her and I start ****ing her. I feel fine at first and the next thing you know I'm flaccid as a noodle. Playing it off, I told her it's the alcohol and she goes down on me again and I get hard again. I start ****ing her and it happens again within 2 minutes! Worst of all THIS HAPPENED 2 NIGHTS IN A ROW! WTF?!

I had a GF 2 months ago and RARELY had this problem.

Now, here is the thing. I did a cycle of an oral steroid about a month ago (Havoc). It's mild, so it really shouldn't be that suppressive. I cycled off properly and everything.

I'm also thinking it could be that emotionally I'm just not ready to have sex with other women BUT I don't think this is the problem (I've been horny as hell both times just to go soft)

THIS SUCKS! What should I do?
 

"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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PHAT Rabbit said:
I highly doubt this is your problem - men are not driven by emotions to orgasm, that is physiology strictly pertaining to women. Men are driven to inseminate as many healthy vaginas as humanly possible, that is the point of our orgasm (to ejaculate).

Women orgasm for different reasons - favor one sperm over the other, remake her filter, fight off infection. To know when to do so in proper situations she uses her mysterious emotional swings.

You may have an anatomical issue, but in the face of so little information how could anyone on this board be up to the task of answering your question?
Go to a doctor. People on a website that are not doctors are NOT the best to help you.

comic_relief
 

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I had a gf for a year and when we broke up, i had a similar issue you have. I couldn't really get fully hard with the first few girls i hooked up. I think it was a big change having sex with random girls so i think i was just a lil nervous at first. eventually i became used to banging randoms:) and i didnt have that problem anymore.

I dont really recommend this but when i did have that problem i took some cialis(same as viagra) and it gives u a raging hard on. it was a quick fix at that time. you can easily buy it online, its not that hard to get.

in your case i think the steroids is playing a role in your decreased testosterone levels. right after a cycle u need to do a PTC cycle so your test levels dont drop so much. you can buy these over the counter. I think its a combo of these two. the more comfortable u get with one night stands the better of you'll be
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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Sandow said:
I had a gf for a year and when we broke up, i had a similar issue you have. I couldn't really get fully hard with the first few girls i hooked up. I think it was a big change having sex with random girls so i think i was just a lil nervous at first. eventually i became used to banging randoms:) and i didnt have that problem anymore.

I dont really recommend this but when i did have that problem i took some cialis(same as viagra) and it gives u a raging hard on. it was a quick fix at that time. you can easily buy it online, its not that hard to get.

in your case i think the steroids is playing a role in your decreased testosterone levels. right after a cycle u need to do a PTC cycle so your test levels dont drop so much. you can buy these over the counter. I think its a combo of these two. the more comfortable u get with one night stands the better of you'll be
Yeah I don't really understand what's going on. I CAN get wood in the morning for awhile, but when it comes down to intercourse It just SUCKS.

Alcohol might be playing a large part here also, as I've been pretty intoxicated the 2 nights (but I never had that problem before). I've been off the steroid for a month and did a correct PCT and everything.. I don't know why it would still be affecting me.

It's just tough because I know I'm going out tonight and I'll see the same girls who want to ****.. and to be honest I really don't know if the 3rd time is going to be a charm.
 

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I tell you now it's down to the alcohol, i've wasted more than 5 and less than 10 ons's cause of alcohol.
 

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Go to a doctor and tell them about it, who knows, you might even get cialis or viagra....that will make sure you never go flaccid again :p
 

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Sir Juanalot said:
Was her vag a bit like waving your arm up an alleyway?
Ha ****, come on I've been in a decent amount of *****. Nah, they were both average.. not too tight not too big.
 

"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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Alot of my bro's that hit the gear have had this problem atleast once in a while. Keep a couple Cialis handy. I'm not a doc but if you can handle the juice etc you can more than likely handle an ED pill.
 
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Hears the answer - it's mental. The reason you didn't have the problem with your ex is because you were more comfortable with her because you were in a longer relationship and you didn't have performance anxiety. Now with this new chick you are out to impress so you get a little nervous because you are thinking about it too much - so the second time it happened again because of performance anxiety -- you are psyching yourself! Be calm - although since it happened twice you are more nervous than ever - so it perpetuates itself!
 

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demonic said:
I tell you now it's down to the alcohol, i've wasted more than 5 and less than 10 ons's cause of alcohol.
This has happened to me too. How old are you OP? When I was younger, 18-20, I could literally be staggering down my hallway stoned and drunk and still be able to bang a girl for quite a while. However after getting older and getting drunk more often, I too have wasted ONS's from being super drunk and trying to get it on at 4 in the morning.

Also, people who have used much milder "supplement" cycles like 1AD have said they continued to have libido problems months after using, and some said their libido never returned to normal. I read that on a forum, I did a lot of research into prosteroids when I was considering taking them but after my research I decided to stay all natural.

LMS is right too, it could also be anxiety, or you expecting it to happen. It could be any of these things or a combination. Are you jerking off? If you are, stop. Thats what helped me. Also drink much less alcohol <3 drinks, and try to be in that situation earlier than super late night like 2-4am. This happened to me twice with the same girl, the third time I didn't drink that night as opposed to being wasted, and took her back to my house at 12am instead of 3-4am. I pounded it for an hour! it was great vindication. For me it was just realizing that I can't drink mass amounts of alcohol and expect to get it up at the end of the night like when I was 18 or 20. Drink less, **** earlier in the night. And don't jerk off for at least a week or two prior if you can help it.
 

“The 22 Rules That Flip the Script With Women… And How You Can Use Them Tonight”

Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.

Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers.  Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.

I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.

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