"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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Very gorgeous girl at the gym

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While I was working out yesterday I see this fine as hell hb9 walk in. I was on the bench press and she couldn't stop checking me out. She even followed me when I went on to my next exercise. Today I see her again and she keeps walking by me and staring and even works out next to me again. So how should I go about getting a little "quicky" or a blow from her? Seeing as I can't take her out or anything do to life's circumstances, I just want to get some. Hopefully this is a chance to lose my "V" card. When I turned 21 I promised myself I'd finally get a lay this year!
 

"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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Get her to speak brah !

Strike while the irons hot or your magic STICK will stay WRINKLED !:box:

Get them digits man:rockon:
 

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Just be like "Geeeze I always see you here, don't think I got your name though I'm ______ " or say pretty much anything although I do agree it is hard to put in work at gym.... Although it does help if you're in crazy good shape
 

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Make a move! Make a move! Make a move! Make a move!

Unless you want this princess to go to another castle. :crackup:

BTW, get this girl off of that pedestal! She takes nasty smelly sh*ts like the one I had yesterday! :crackup:

Case closed. Take action.
 
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ya don't be like me 4 years ago and have this same scenario and not do something about it.
 

"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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The issue with hitting on women at the gym is the fact you are clearly interrupting them from what they came to do. The gym more than anywhere else, people don't want to be interrupted.

But if she is showing the interest you claim she is, that isn't an issue at all. You better approach! And tell us how it goes.

*NOTE: Do not go into this with the mindset of "maybe I'll lose my virginity to her". That will put too much pressure on you, and probably block you from thinking clearly about how to handle this. Just be cool about it, relaxed, like you've been there before.
 

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If she's clearly been checking you out (and this has happened on multiple occasions), next time she passes by just say "hey, what's your name" > a minute of blah blah blah > hey let's get together sometime.

It's a good way to DHV. You're not interrupting her and she's literally walking into your frame.

There's a certain finesse to "gym game". Try it.
 

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oh for the love of GAWD!

he"s not Asking for marriage, just a smile!

beta"s please refrain from interupting a hunt in progress!!
 

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Shes just teasing you,

i've had that happen millions of times,

when I approach,

they will say something rude to me.
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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pickin up girls at the gym is wimpish, im to concentrated on muscle mind contraction and in the zone, and getting the workout done... ur in n out, u got the rest of the day to pick up chicks.
 

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gspshields2 said:
Shes just teasing you,

i've had that happen millions of times,

when I approach,

they will say something rude to me.
Maybe you read their looks wrong. That just makes no sense.
 

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PDubb75 said:
Maybe you read their looks wrong. That just makes no sense.

What makes no sense is if this girl was interested, why wouldn't so go up and talk to him? Does she think staring is going to get her somewhere?

Do you go up to people in real life and stare at them until one of the acknowledges you?
 

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gspshields2 said:
What makes no sense is if this girl was interested, why wouldn't so go up and talk to him? Does she think staring is going to get her somewhere?

Do you go up to people in real life and stare at them until one of the acknowledges you?
You clearly don't understand women. The far majority of women do not approach. They may give signs that they want to be approached, but most will not actually approach themselves. It's "the man's job" according to them.

No one ever said women made sense. In fact, it seems to be the opposite.
 

"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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Jair213 said:
ur supose to go work out at the gym...
Yeah, kind of hesitant because this is a gym and I take my workouts seriously, but she's quit a head turner!

omega05 said:
so you have no experience but want to get a quicky from her....
Yeah man, I have to learn somehow. Don't want my first time to be with an ugly chick!
 

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Jair213 said:
pickin up girls at the gym is wimpish, im to concentrated on muscle mind contraction and in the zone, and getting the workout done... ur in n out, u got the rest of the day to pick up chicks.
So you can be all tough and sit and stare while you're resting between sets, and I'll engage a girl nearby while I'm resting between mine. Clearly that's wimpish.

You can (and should) pick up women wherever and whenever you want. There's no "can't talk to women" sign at the gym, or anywhere else for that matter. You're a man. You see something you like, you find a way to make it known.

(I've picked up girls at the gym before and while it's a slightly different dynamic, especially if they're regulars, there's nothing wrong with it).
 

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Gripz, mind if I ask what these "life's circumstances" are preventing you from taking her out?
 

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PDubb75 said:
Gripz, mind if I ask what these "life's circumstances" are preventing you from taking her out?
Basically I'm a broke college student, not much disposable cash. I barely have enough for a new outfit or shoes. Don't even have a car! Luckily the gym I go to lets me have a reduced membership do to my low income.
 

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muscleman said:
So you can be all tough and sit and stare while you're resting between sets, and I'll engage a girl nearby while I'm resting between mine. Clearly that's wimpish.

You can (and should) pick up women wherever and whenever you want. There's no "can't talk to women" sign at the gym, or anywhere else for that matter. You're a man. You see something you like, you find a way to make it known.

(I've picked up girls at the gym before and while it's a slightly different dynamic, especially if they're regulars, there's nothing wrong with it).
i have talk to girls between sets but they seem to want to keep talking and every time i rest between a set i have to cut off the conversation. it happen twice with two girls i kept cutting the conversation because i make sure i get 45 seconds rest between each set they seemed to get the wrong idea or they get butt hurt due to it.. one of them seemed to keep following me everywere ****t was annoying.. i guess they both got the wrong idea as i told them both that if i keep cutting in between conversations is because i only let my self rest a certain amount of time.. never again did they spoke to me -_-
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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