"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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Okay.. to test my confidence last week I went up to an HB7 on the bus and asked straight out 'what's your home number?'.

She had two objections - 'why'?
me - 'Because it gives me a chance to see if I want to get to know you, and you a chance to see what I'm like'

and 'I have a boyfriend'
me - 'But I'm not asking for his number, I'm asking for yours'.

She gave me the home number and her name.

Now here's the deal. It's been four days. Now if this was a normal approach I would call her, but now I'm curious and I wanna know if anyone has tried approaching as directly as this, and whether it has gotten them results...
 
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"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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Four days????

How are you getting to know her? MENTAL TELEPATHY??? Call the girl! Ask her out for coffee! What the hell are you waiting for? You got the number!

USE IT!


You made a strong approach...it worked! Follow through!
 

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great stuff bro!
 

"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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I think you need to follow up your stone-cold approach with the following phone call:

ring... ring...
"Hi, this is hot_girl"
"Hi, this is Faustus. Will you have sex with me?"

Actually, maybe this wouldn't work so well... :D

-> Beethoven
 

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All the balls in the world to open the door, and none to step through.

Did you give a sh!t what she thought when you asked for the number?

NO.

What did that get you? It got you her number. Do you think being overly concerned with whether she'll think you're calling too soon/too late, the exact OPPOSITE of what netted you the number, is going to get you a date? Stick to your guns. Stop worrying whether she's impressed by you...if you're holding the number you made your impression. She LIKES you.

Now you just have to show her why. ;)
 

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Okay...

'All the balls in the world to open the door, and none to step through'

Ok, guys, I did read here that you should wait four days to call but, hey, I see your point, I guess I forgot that imitation is suicide.

You know, I've got to say this DJ mindset is really paying off for me. People are reacting totally differently to me. Instead of trying to remember some half-arsed patten I'm being ****y and funny, doing kino and being the prize.

And yet, you know what? I've missed two really great opportunities that have come out of this authentic confidence and sexuality. I actually rationalised myself out of it!

There's a squirming wreck of an AFC inside me clinging on for dear life and screwing up the capitalisation of my DJing!

Faustus looks down at his ancient, well-thumbed copy of the DJ bible and thinks. Suddenly he sticks his hand into his stomach and grabs hold of a squirming creature inside him. He rips it out and throws it against the wall. It makes a whimpering noise and slides down behind the bin.

Well, he's dead as from now. I swear, every hot girl I see, I approach and I get the number! That's a universal rule!Everything that comes out of this mindset is to be capitalised on!

If I stray from this, which I won't I give you all permission to *****-slap me to the four corners of the earth!

Faustus gets up from computer and flies out of the window towards HB9s

It's DJ time...
 

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Nice approach but I bet the number is fake anyway!


Originally posted by Beethoven
I think you need to follow up your stone-cold approach with the following phone call:

ring... ring...
"Hi, this is hot_girl"
"Hi, this is Faustus. Will you have sex with me?"

Actually, maybe this wouldn't work so well... :D

-> Beethoven
No matter if the number is fake, I really like this stone cold approach and the follow up. Let us all give it one shot and report your experience here! Are you in ?
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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