"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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Varicocele

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For those of you who don't know what a varicocele is, it's an enlargement of the veins in the spermatic cord because of faulty veins that allow backflow of blood.

In my case I have a grade III varicocele (the worse) and I am just getting into weightlifting again. I rarely have any pain because of it but sometimes there is a aching feeling.

I do not know what approach to take to this situation as I've heard that keeping a varicocele can cause permanent testicular damage (infertility, lower testosterone levels) and I've noticed less erections (no morning wood :(). I believe that surgery would raise my T levels again but it would also stop me from lifting/sex for 1-2 months.

I would simply like some opinions on how you might approach this situation, quick fix surgery? or wait it out, get a jockstrap lift and see how it handles?
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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Alle_Gory

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Would the jockstrap help the area to heal? Or is surgery the only option to restore full function.

Take whichever route will heal, with the least risk. If surgery is the only way then bite the bullet for a couple of months and let it heal for good.


If you want to be stupid and risk permanent testicular damage by not getting it treated, you have every right to do so.
 

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I'm afraid it wouldn't help heal, varicoceles are permanent. It would just help reduce the stress from lifting.

I believe I'll go for the surgery, they say that they are generally harmless but CAN cause damage but I would rather not take the risk especially if it meant not having children.

Thanks.
 

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Just go see a vascular surgeon. There's lots of minimally invasive endovascular procedures they can do now. If there's anything minimally invasive available for your condition, then your recovery time will be short, and you'll be back to living your life.

Most of us here aren't that well versed in vascular interventions, so just go see an expert.
 

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Do the surgery. You will be glad when its all done.
Just remember to take it easy after the surgery.
 

"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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