As men, we've all understood what women respond to: money, attraction, and status.
As a man seeking a fulfilling life, I often find myself at a crossroads every time I have to make a decision. I ask myself: "Should I choose this path because it would increase my value in terms of status, attraction, or money, and therefore make me more attractive to women? Or should I choose this other path simply because it makes me feel free and at peace with myself?"
When I choose what makes me feel free and at peace with myself, I've noticed that I gain greater inner strength, a kind of resilience. It's a bit like when someone offers you a slice of cake or a dessert, but you decline, thanking them calmly and confidently, knowing you're on a diet and that this choice makes you feel good.
It's like knowing that, by driving a BMW, a Mercedes, or a Lamborghini, I would be able to attract the attention of many more women. I would communicate status and financial resources, elements that can attract women of all kinds, from the most superficial to the most serious.
How many women have you heard "say" that a car doesn't matter, only to then see them "do" completely different things?
Find me a woman who would refuse to go out, have sex, or push for a relationship and children with a man with a Ferrari or a Lamborghini.
That said...
At the same time, however, I tell myself that it would be an exaggeration to have to acquire all these attributes just because I know they would make me more attractive to women, especially if obtaining those things doesn't make me feel good about myself.
For example...
I could wear a smart suit with a blazer, go out on the street, and see women turn to look at me or compliment me. Yet, at the same time, I would feel that image making me a little insecure, while I would feel much more confident simply going out in jeans and a T-shirt.
What I mean is this: Have you ever felt, as a man, that you have to work hard to acquire certain attributes and material goods that convey high value to women and, consequently, attract them, but that, once you've obtained them, end up making you feel less confident?
As if you were missing something inside, something you would have if you had chosen a different path: driving a Toyota, wearing a nice pair of jeans and a T-shirt, taking care of your appearance and having good grooming.
A simpler life, which makes you feel better, but which at the same time, because it doesn't signal "high value," doesn't create the adequate opportunities you need as a man.
I'm talking specifically about men.
I see this behavior especially between the ages of 30 and 50: men constantly trying to prove they have something more than everyone else.
The biggest and most expensive car, the most exclusive clothes, the most prestigious clubs, the most important positions, and so on.
Rather than focusing on what they truly desire, they end up chasing what they know the public appreciates.
Let's take two examples.
On the one hand, we have an executive who drives a Maserati or a Mercedes-Benz, frequents a golf club, always dresses elegantly, wears a Rolex, has a beautiful woman by his side, perhaps children, a large house, and frequents exclusive circles.
On the other, we have a house painter who drives a second-hand Toyota, attends the local running group, dresses simply and cheaply, wears a Citizen, is single or has a partner with an equally simple life, and lives in a small apartment with no children.
Socially, the former is generally perceived as a more successful person.
People don't necessarily focus on his integrity, his goodness, his inner confidence, his kindness, or his industriousness. Rather, they tend to attribute certain qualities to him based on what he has achieved in life and what they can see. It's not just a superficial relationship. Those around him do it too.
Everyone did it in the past.
If there was a tribal chief, we were all there to listen to him and respect him. Regardless of whether there were better people for that role in our tribe.
What I'd like to say is that it's the role that makes the person...
It's the role that attributes adjectives of value to a person.
It's the name of the famous artist that attributes value to a work, even if that work can be replicated exactly the same way by other artists.
And so...
When faced with a corporate executive, we might think he's intelligent.
We attribute ability and resourcefulness to an entrepreneur.
We attribute cunning and power to a rich person.
On the contrary, when faced with someone who's unemployed, we might think he's not...
As men, we've all understood the elements that define a man's worth: money, beauty, and status.
As a man seeking a fulfilling life, I often find myself at a crossroads every time I have to make a decision. I ask myself: "Should I choose this path because it would increase my value in terms of status, attractiveness, or money, and therefore make me more attractive to women? Or should I choose this other path simply because it makes me feel free and at peace with myself?"
When I choose what makes me feel free and at peace with myself, I've noticed that I gain greater inner strength, a sort of resilience. It's a bit like when someone offers you a slice of cake or a dessert, but you decline, thanking them calmly and confidently, knowing you're on a diet and that this choice makes you feel good.
Or when you're offered a promotion, but you prefer to stay in your current position because you know that becoming a manager or executive will require you to work outside of work hours, and for you, who value your free time more, it's simply a complete no.
It's like knowing that by driving a BMW, a Mercedes, or a Lamborghini, we'd be able to attract the attention of many more women. Communicating status and financial availability are elements that can attract women of all kinds, from the most superficial to the most serious.
How many women have you heard "say" that a car doesn't matter, but then you see them "doing" completely different things?
Find me a woman who would refuse to go out, have sex, or push for a relationship and children with a man with a Ferrari or a Lamborghini.
(They don't exist.)
That said...
At the same time, however, I tell myself that it would be an exaggeration to have to acquire all these attributes just because I know they'd make me more attractive to women, especially if obtaining those things doesn't make me feel good about myself.
For example...
I could wear a smart suit with a blazer, go out on the street, and see women turn to look at me or pay me compliments. Yet, at the same time, I'd feel a little insecure about that image, whereas I'd feel much more confident simply going out in jeans and a T-shirt.
What I'm trying to say is this: Have you ever felt, as a man, that you have to work hard to acquire certain attributes and material goods that convey high value to women and, consequently, attract them, but that, once you've obtained them, end up making you feel less confident?
As if you were missing something inside, something you'd have if you'd chosen a different path: driving a Toyota or Kia, wearing a nice pair of jeans and a T-shirt, taking care of your appearance, and having good grooming.
A simpler life, which makes you feel better, but which, at the same time, because it doesn't signal "high value," doesn't create the adequate opportunities you need as a man.
On one side, we have a manager who drives a Maserati or a Mercedes-Benz, frequents a golf club, always dresses elegantly, wears a Rolex, has a beautiful woman by his side, perhaps children, a large house, and frequents exclusive circles.
On the other, we have a house painter who drives a second-hand Toyota, attends the local running group, dresses simply and cheaply, wears a Citizen, is single or has an equally simple partner, and lives in a small apartment with no children.
Socially, the former is generally perceived as a more successful person.
People don't necessarily focus on his integrity, his goodness, his inner confidence, his kindness, or his industriousness. Rather, they tend to attribute certain qualities to him based on what he's achieved in life and what they can see.
It's not just a superficial relationship. Those around him do it too.
Everyone did it in the past.
If there was a tribal chief, we were all there to listen to him and respect him. Regardless of whether there were better people in our tribe for that role.
What I'd like to say is that it's the role that makes the person...
It's the role that attributes adjectives of value or not to a person.
It's the name of the famous artist that attributes value to a work, even if that work can be replicated, in an exactly identical way, by other artists.
And so...
When faced with a corporate executive, we might think he's intelligent.
To an entrepreneur, we attribute ability and resourcefulness.
To a rich person, we attribute cunning and power.
Conversely, when faced with someone who's unemployed, we might think he's unambitious.
When faced with someone who's poor, we might conclude that he's incapable of finding a way to make money.
As a man seeking a fulfilling life, I often find myself at a crossroads every time I have to make a decision. I ask myself: "Should I choose this path because it would increase my value in terms of status, attraction, or money, and therefore make me more attractive to women? Or should I choose this other path simply because it makes me feel free and at peace with myself?"
When I choose what makes me feel free and at peace with myself, I've noticed that I gain greater inner strength, a kind of resilience. It's a bit like when someone offers you a slice of cake or a dessert, but you decline, thanking them calmly and confidently, knowing you're on a diet and that this choice makes you feel good.
It's like knowing that, by driving a BMW, a Mercedes, or a Lamborghini, I would be able to attract the attention of many more women. I would communicate status and financial resources, elements that can attract women of all kinds, from the most superficial to the most serious.
How many women have you heard "say" that a car doesn't matter, only to then see them "do" completely different things?
Find me a woman who would refuse to go out, have sex, or push for a relationship and children with a man with a Ferrari or a Lamborghini.
That said...
At the same time, however, I tell myself that it would be an exaggeration to have to acquire all these attributes just because I know they would make me more attractive to women, especially if obtaining those things doesn't make me feel good about myself.
For example...
I could wear a smart suit with a blazer, go out on the street, and see women turn to look at me or compliment me. Yet, at the same time, I would feel that image making me a little insecure, while I would feel much more confident simply going out in jeans and a T-shirt.
What I mean is this: Have you ever felt, as a man, that you have to work hard to acquire certain attributes and material goods that convey high value to women and, consequently, attract them, but that, once you've obtained them, end up making you feel less confident?
As if you were missing something inside, something you would have if you had chosen a different path: driving a Toyota, wearing a nice pair of jeans and a T-shirt, taking care of your appearance and having good grooming.
A simpler life, which makes you feel better, but which at the same time, because it doesn't signal "high value," doesn't create the adequate opportunities you need as a man.
I'm talking specifically about men.
I see this behavior especially between the ages of 30 and 50: men constantly trying to prove they have something more than everyone else.
The biggest and most expensive car, the most exclusive clothes, the most prestigious clubs, the most important positions, and so on.
Rather than focusing on what they truly desire, they end up chasing what they know the public appreciates.
Let's take two examples.
On the one hand, we have an executive who drives a Maserati or a Mercedes-Benz, frequents a golf club, always dresses elegantly, wears a Rolex, has a beautiful woman by his side, perhaps children, a large house, and frequents exclusive circles.
On the other, we have a house painter who drives a second-hand Toyota, attends the local running group, dresses simply and cheaply, wears a Citizen, is single or has a partner with an equally simple life, and lives in a small apartment with no children.
Socially, the former is generally perceived as a more successful person.
People don't necessarily focus on his integrity, his goodness, his inner confidence, his kindness, or his industriousness. Rather, they tend to attribute certain qualities to him based on what he has achieved in life and what they can see. It's not just a superficial relationship. Those around him do it too.
Everyone did it in the past.
If there was a tribal chief, we were all there to listen to him and respect him. Regardless of whether there were better people for that role in our tribe.
What I'd like to say is that it's the role that makes the person...
It's the role that attributes adjectives of value to a person.
It's the name of the famous artist that attributes value to a work, even if that work can be replicated exactly the same way by other artists.
And so...
When faced with a corporate executive, we might think he's intelligent.
We attribute ability and resourcefulness to an entrepreneur.
We attribute cunning and power to a rich person.
On the contrary, when faced with someone who's unemployed, we might think he's not...
As men, we've all understood the elements that define a man's worth: money, beauty, and status.
As a man seeking a fulfilling life, I often find myself at a crossroads every time I have to make a decision. I ask myself: "Should I choose this path because it would increase my value in terms of status, attractiveness, or money, and therefore make me more attractive to women? Or should I choose this other path simply because it makes me feel free and at peace with myself?"
When I choose what makes me feel free and at peace with myself, I've noticed that I gain greater inner strength, a sort of resilience. It's a bit like when someone offers you a slice of cake or a dessert, but you decline, thanking them calmly and confidently, knowing you're on a diet and that this choice makes you feel good.
Or when you're offered a promotion, but you prefer to stay in your current position because you know that becoming a manager or executive will require you to work outside of work hours, and for you, who value your free time more, it's simply a complete no.
It's like knowing that by driving a BMW, a Mercedes, or a Lamborghini, we'd be able to attract the attention of many more women. Communicating status and financial availability are elements that can attract women of all kinds, from the most superficial to the most serious.
How many women have you heard "say" that a car doesn't matter, but then you see them "doing" completely different things?
Find me a woman who would refuse to go out, have sex, or push for a relationship and children with a man with a Ferrari or a Lamborghini.
(They don't exist.)
That said...
At the same time, however, I tell myself that it would be an exaggeration to have to acquire all these attributes just because I know they'd make me more attractive to women, especially if obtaining those things doesn't make me feel good about myself.
For example...
I could wear a smart suit with a blazer, go out on the street, and see women turn to look at me or pay me compliments. Yet, at the same time, I'd feel a little insecure about that image, whereas I'd feel much more confident simply going out in jeans and a T-shirt.
What I'm trying to say is this: Have you ever felt, as a man, that you have to work hard to acquire certain attributes and material goods that convey high value to women and, consequently, attract them, but that, once you've obtained them, end up making you feel less confident?
As if you were missing something inside, something you'd have if you'd chosen a different path: driving a Toyota or Kia, wearing a nice pair of jeans and a T-shirt, taking care of your appearance, and having good grooming.
A simpler life, which makes you feel better, but which, at the same time, because it doesn't signal "high value," doesn't create the adequate opportunities you need as a man.
On one side, we have a manager who drives a Maserati or a Mercedes-Benz, frequents a golf club, always dresses elegantly, wears a Rolex, has a beautiful woman by his side, perhaps children, a large house, and frequents exclusive circles.
On the other, we have a house painter who drives a second-hand Toyota, attends the local running group, dresses simply and cheaply, wears a Citizen, is single or has an equally simple partner, and lives in a small apartment with no children.
Socially, the former is generally perceived as a more successful person.
People don't necessarily focus on his integrity, his goodness, his inner confidence, his kindness, or his industriousness. Rather, they tend to attribute certain qualities to him based on what he's achieved in life and what they can see.
It's not just a superficial relationship. Those around him do it too.
Everyone did it in the past.
If there was a tribal chief, we were all there to listen to him and respect him. Regardless of whether there were better people in our tribe for that role.
What I'd like to say is that it's the role that makes the person...
It's the role that attributes adjectives of value or not to a person.
It's the name of the famous artist that attributes value to a work, even if that work can be replicated, in an exactly identical way, by other artists.
And so...
When faced with a corporate executive, we might think he's intelligent.
To an entrepreneur, we attribute ability and resourcefulness.
To a rich person, we attribute cunning and power.
Conversely, when faced with someone who's unemployed, we might think he's unambitious.
When faced with someone who's poor, we might conclude that he's incapable of finding a way to make money.
