Validation

[dude99]

This is what I thought exactly .. Just going to be short with her .. In all honestly I'm not even bothered .. Was just curious to find out what her game is? And she's never ignored me .. Always very receptive and quick to respond. I think she does like me, it's just that we've dragged this on for so long she's uncertain, I'm uncertain if you get me ..

Years ago i had a chick try this with me also. She wanted me to be her plan b. She would come out of the wood work show high high levels of interest for a couple of weeks then vanish only to repeat the cycle. After the 3rd time she did this i went into 100% ignore mode.

I found out she had a on and off relationship with her bf. When they would have a blow up then she would look for validation and attention from me. I went 100% ignore mode and she made over a dozen different attempts to try to draw me in over a year.

So just to let you know, she will still try to sucker you in even though she had no intentions of actually dating you

 

[ImTheDoubleGreatest!]

If you think it's at all possible, fvck her then completely stop talking to her for the rest of your life (complete NC). That ought to hurt her. Or call her out on her bs the same way dude99 did. And see what happens.

 

[ImTheDoubleGreatest!]

Not trying to be 'nitpicky', but don't do anything out of revenge.

You want to fvck her? Do it. Do whatever you really want.

But, don't base your game on getting back on others.

This will only hold you back.

Escalate. Fvck or dump her. This is what you need as a man.

Never be her gay best friend. She is an albatross around you at the moment.

Use her as a platform to get better. Understand that your actions here are worthwhile.

Good point. It would just be good to gain knowledge as to see how she reacts though, just to understand women better.

 

[dude99]

But did you get any value from this 'push/pull' girl?

Or did she never give you sex?

Real question.

This was about 23 years ago and i didnt know what she was doing and i hadn't learnt how to be a proper dj yet. At the time no i didnt get sex from her. I just got angry and 100% locked her out and never spoke to her again. Never told her i was upset. I just stopped returning phone calls and cut all contact.

 

[Aesthetix29]

Right quick update ... So after a some small banter I said that we should meet for drinks and to do something, she's literally replied saying 'yeah okay, but she's off today but then not off for another 3 weeks' surely this is BS.

She either wants to meet me today or she's genuinely not interested

 

[Aesthetix29]

Here's the reply .. She says 'okay I'm free today' and then not for the next 3 weeks' no counter offer - also seems like a test. (Just so you all know, I do have other plates.

 

[Bingo-Player]

okay dated this girl a while back .. Seemed to be a success ended the date with a kiss ... This girl is an hours drive away .. So a few days afterwards I couldn't make my mind up whether to go for it .. And in the end I didn't, but we've always stayed in contact via text .. Anyway last Saturday we was chatting and told me she had a date later that night .. I was like okay cool, (secretly jealous) it's proper got to me .. Obviously I like this girl more than I'd liked to admit, so kind of just cut the convo off ( not in a bets way ) and later that night while she was on the date (so she says) don't actually know if she did. She texted me saying worst date ever .. I asked why and she gave some bs story about the guys brothers turning up at the table next to them or something .. Don't really believe it. Anyway a full week has gone by and not heard nothing off her right .. We chat on what's app and she's been online while I have and still nothing ... Then today I get a message out the blue

' oiiiii you X'
I replied a few hours later asking what's up .. She's read and not even bothered to reply that was 2 hours ago.

Is this her wanting her ego stroked or validation or something?

I went through this sort of thing a lot a couple of years back when I thought I was using "game" in reality the only game I was playing was hers

you really don't need to deal with this nonsense from women and that's what it is nonsense

be direct with her , tell her what you want and when you want it by

otherwise both of you are floating about in limbo

 

[Aesthetix29]

I've basically just told that if she wanted me to drive down today then that's not going to happen .. Too short notice. Which it is .. Can't see her contacting me back as I'm sure it was a test, but I'm not a mug either wanting me to drop everything when I have plans for today ... And there was no counter offer, who's busy for 3 weeks haha, if she was interested she would make the TIME .. correct?
A

 

[Aesthetix29]

She's just replied

'haha I'm busy anyway xx'

Followed by

'First day off in 9 weeks'

Yeah sure it is ha

 

[mrgoodstuff]

She's just replied

'haha I'm busy anyway xx'

Followed by

'First day off in 9 weeks'

Yeah sure it is ha

She done hooked up with a whole lot of dudes in those 9 weeks, even if she just used them for drinks and dinner

 

[Aesthetix29]

She done hooked up with a whole lot of dudes in those 9 weeks, even if she just used them for drinks and dinner

Exactly ... I'm done with this one

 

[mrgoodstuff]

Exactly ... I'm done with this one

She was backburnering you like your not even the "pool boy" or "janitor" in her life.

 

[dude99]

That's fair enough, mate.

You were expecting a relationship (blue-pill faggotry). You tried to escalate a relationship (god only knows why).

You locked her out because of your own butthurt. It's the same reason for this 'no-contact' bullsh1t that I see.

You have since improved. That is really all that matters in that.

Edit: hang on, read it wrong. So, you didn't get sex from her? That is an obvious next.

We all learn, anyway. I sure have - been in loads of bad situations. The guys that listen on here, learn. The guys that try and rationalize faggot behaviour suffer.

Oh she got nexted. That wa for sure. It was after her that discoverered the red pill.

This was the days before websites like this. This was before the internet was in every home and the palm of every ones hand. I had been burned by rhe last 2 girls inhad been with and accidently discovered the red pill. Before this chick the ***** had power over me and i aimed to please. I cared too much and was honestly taken advantage of.

After this chick i had power over the ***** and mybworld changed. I stopped giving a crap i wouldn't commit i went from dating only ome girl to seeing 3 or 4 at once. Was indifferent towards them all and the more i didn't care the more they wanted to be with me.

When you have the power over the ***** then you hold the cards. They aim to please you.

 

[dude99]

She's just replied

'haha I'm busy anyway xx'

Followed by

'First day off in 9 weeks'

Yeah sure it is ha

I would say "enjoy your day."

Then flush her number and next her.

 

[Aesthetix29]

I would say "enjoy your day."

Then flush her number and next her.

No point pal .. I've just Nexted. Simple

 

[dude99]

No point pal .. I've just Nexted. Simple

Perfect