Validation

[Aesthetix29]

okay dated this girl a while back .. Seemed to be a success ended the date with a kiss ... This girl is an hours drive away .. So a few days afterwards I couldn't make my mind up whether to go for it .. And in the end I didn't, but we've always stayed in contact via text .. Anyway last Saturday we was chatting and told me she had a date later that night .. I was like okay cool, (secretly jealous) it's proper got to me .. Obviously I like this girl more than I'd liked to admit, so kind of just cut the convo off ( not in a bets way ) and later that night while she was on the date (so she says) don't actually know if she did. She texted me saying worst date ever .. I asked why and she gave some bs story about the guys brothers turning up at the table next to them or something .. Don't really believe it. Anyway a full week has gone by and not heard nothing off her right .. We chat on what's app and she's been online while I have and still nothing ... Then today I get a message out the blue

' oiiiii you X'
I replied a few hours later asking what's up .. She's read and not even bothered to reply that was 2 hours ago.

Is this her wanting her ego stroked or validation or something?

 

[marmel75]

okay dated this girl a while back .. Seemed to be a success ended the date with a kiss ... This girl is an hours drive away .. So a few days afterwards I couldn't make my mind up whether to go for it .. And in the end I didn't, but we've always stayed in contact via text .. Anyway last Saturday we was chatting and told me she had a date later that night .. I was like okay cool, (secretly jealous) it's proper got to me .. Obviously I like this girl more than I'd liked to admit, so kind of just cut the convo off ( not in a bets way ) and later that night while she was on the date (so she says) don't actually know if she did. She texted me saying worst date ever .. I asked why and she gave some bs story about the guys brothers turning up at the table next to them or something .. Don't really believe it. Anyway a full week has gone by and not heard nothing off her right .. We chat on what's app and she's been online while I have and still nothing ... Then today I get a message out the blue

' oiiiii you X'
I replied a few hours later asking what's up .. She's read and not even bothered to reply that was 2 hours ago.

Is this her wanting her ego stroked or validation or something?

Why are you wasting time with this chick? You are the one that seems to need your ego stroked by talking to a woman. Stop wasting time and find a girl who is interested

 

[stevo]

You are causing your own headache.

Marathon texts are for girlfriends.

If you're not texting to meet, if you're not texting to fcuk, you shouldn't be texting at all.

You should have her drive an hour to your place rather than you driving to her. You are the man, act like it.

This one is toast, move on. If she hits you up, set a date, anything that's not a yes, delete number and don't look back.

 

[El Payaso]

Like most women she's not used to a guy flaking on her so she's seeking your validation.

 

[Aesthetix29]

Like most women she's not used to a guy flaking on her so she's seeking your validation.

So with me replying 'I take it she got it' and why she hasn't responded?

 

[El Payaso]

So with me replying 'I take it she got it' and why she hasn't responded?

She'll either ignore you for eternity or reply when she needs an ego boost.

Really though, you're the one in control. If you want to fvck her then act on it. If not, dismiss her and move on with your life.

 

[Aesthetix29]

She'll either ignore you for eternity or reply when she needs an ego boost.

Really though, you're the one in control. If you want to fvck her then act on it. If not, dismiss her and move on with your life.

Thanks for the advice El Payaso, I would like to fvck her, but can't help but think I missed the opportunity ... Like I've been FZ. I could just ask her out and she would probably oblige but i'd like her to work for it but can't see it happening now as there's been ample opportunities and I didn't act on them. Women normally chase me (without sounding arrogant) and I'm now trying to change that and get some groundwork done.

 

[stevo]

Thanks for the advice El Payaso, I would like to fvck her, but can't help but think I missed the opportunity ... Like I've been FZ. I could just ask her out and she would probably oblige but i'd like her to work for it but can't see it happening now as there's been ample opportunities and I didn't act on them. Women normally chase me (without sounding arrogant) and I'm now trying to change that and get some groundwork done.

Overthinking sheet.

Don't initiate when she does regardless of what its about, Ask the beech out and escalate,

that's the only way to know where her head is at.

 

[El Payaso]

Thanks for the advice El Payaso, I would like to fvck her, but can't help but think I missed the opportunity ... Like I've been FZ. I could just ask her out and she would probably oblige but i'd like her to work for it but can't see it happening now as there's been ample opportunities and I didn't act on them. Women normally chase me (without sounding arrogant) and I'm now trying to change that and get some groundwork done.

Forget about what she wants, has done or how things normally go. Ask yourself what you want and go from there.

If you want to fvck her, take her out then back to your place and do the deed.

If you just want her as a friend then keep texting her.

If you want nothing to do with her at all, tell her to stop texting you then delete and block her.

 

[EyeBRollin]

"what's up" is a weak text.

Anytime a woman texts you, assume she wants to come over to get railed. Make a date.

"oiiiii "
"...so, you want to come over?"

She'll either come over or stop texting you. Force her to make a decision. Stop wasting your time.

 

[Trump]

okay dated this girl a while back .. Seemed to be a success ended the date with a kiss ... This girl is an hours drive away .. So a few days afterwards I couldn't make my mind up whether to go for it .. And in the end I didn't, but we've always stayed in contact via text ..

Why are you staying in contact with a girl without trying to set up a time to have sex? The more 'staying in contact' you do without trying to have sex her, the lower your value in her eyes. It seems like a lot of guys need friends more than they need sex from a woman.

Anyway last Saturday we was chatting and told me she had a date later that night .. I was like okay cool, (secretly jealous) it's proper got to me .. Obviously I like this girl more than I'd liked to admit, so kind of just cut the convo off

You don't make a move thinking see will magically fall in love with you and then you freak out she she says another guy has the guts to put the moves on her. Always make a move ASAP. They will not fall in love with you over text. They will fall in love with you over sex.

Anyway a full week has gone by and not heard nothing off her right .. We chat on what's app and she's been online while I have and still nothing ... Then today I get a message out the blue

' oiiiii you X'
I replied a few hours later asking what's up .. She's read and not even bothered to reply that was 2 hours ago.

Is this her wanting her ego stroked or validation or something?

I think she wants to have good sex with a man but can't find a guy willing to make a hard move. How does one girl, who you haven't had sex with, make your head spin with 3 words on a text message? How do you guys survive in real life?

Try to have sex with her. If she says go to hell, next.

 

[Aesthetix29]

Okay I get it .. And I knew this, that's why I said I missed countless opportunities. If she ever gets back in touch then yes I will just be straight up and try to fvck her. Just have to wait and see if she does now

 

[marmel75]

This is a lost cause, unsure why you are even bothering

 

[Aesthetix29]

Onay so it's been weeks and not heard anything off this girl .. And about an hour ago she texts me saying

'Oiiii you'

Not replied as of yet .. But considering it's been weeks without hearing anything I guess whoever has been feeding her ego lately has dissapeared or something .. Is this why she's reaching out ? Is she just curious to see what I'm upto? Anyone else dealt with situations ?
D

 

[Skyline]

Onay so it's been weeks and not heard anything off this girl .. And about an hour ago she texts me saying

'Oiiii you'

Not replied as of yet .. But considering it's been weeks without hearing anything I guess whoever has been feeding her ego lately has dissapeared or something .. Is this why she's reaching out ? Is she just curious to see what I'm upto? Anyone else dealt with situations ?
D

Make some small talk, like what she's been up to, and then ask her when she's free to get together. This whole exchange shouldn't take any longer than 2-3 messages on your part.

If she isn't willing to meet up then she's probably using you for attention.

 

[Aesthetix29]

She will definitely go out for drinks .. I asked her this a few weeks back and she was like 'yeah sure' but I just got the impression that she wasn't that interested so just fvcked her off ... I Think she's just curious to what I'm up2 or who I'm with

 

[Aesthetix29]

I might just reply saying ' who's this ' ha

 

[dude99]

Is this her

Onay so it's been weeks and not heard anything off this girl .. And about an hour ago she texts me saying

'Oiiii you'

Not replied as of yet .. But considering it's been weeks without hearing anything I guess whoever has been feeding her ego lately has dissapeared or something .. Is this why she's reaching out ? Is she just curious to see what I'm upto? Anyone else dealt with situations ?
D

Every couple of weeks it's "oiii you."
Then you try and she goes back into ignore mode.

Looks like the guy that had been giving her attention told her to hit the bricks.

 

[Aesthetix29]

Is this her



Every couple of weeks it's "oiii you."
Then you try and she goes back into ignore mode.

Looks like the guy that had been giving her attention told her to hit the bricks.

This is what I thought exactly .. Just going to be short with her .. In all honestly I'm not even bothered .. Was just curious to find out what her game is? And she's never ignored me .. Always very receptive and quick to respond. I think she does like me, it's just that we've dragged this on for so long she's uncertain, I'm uncertain if you get me ..

 

[Skyline]

It's really that simple to send 2-3 texts and arrange a date. You are thinking way too much into this which tells me that her interest in you is probably 50/50. Women who are above 70%, will not confuse you.

The only way to find out is to ask her out. If she declines then move on because she's not interested.