Been dating a girl for a couple of weeks, she likes me very much but I am trying, as always, to be on the least caring side. She is well known for being a bit of a prude, and has not kissed me yet after 2 official dates. We were planning on hanging out Friday night but after 8:00 I gave up on her texting me and went out with the guys, at 930 she texted me several times wanting to see me, which for an 18 year old senior in high school is kindof late for a date(I'm 19 in college locally) I was out of town at this point so I couldn't. It turns out that the reason she texted me late was because she was hanging out with here little guy friends who just got ungrounded (they are nothing more than friends, trust me hahaha) so I was a bit put off by this but she wanted to do something today. Today she had the act and after she got out she was a bit late in texting me and I tutored a sorority friend of mine instead. I mentioned this to her. She had a family thing to do tonight(it's real, she sent me a picture from there) and we weren't able to do anything. I have many exams this week and I don't know if I should do anything on valentines day, I mean she hasn't even kissed me! And I always hook up on the first date! Especially with some high school girl! One thing that would make me say no to valentines day is that she said this today after I talked about helping the girl with homework she said "will you do my homework?" I said "why Would I do that?" She said "you like me". I mean we do text a lot, and I think I am being pretty hard to get, but maybe I'm wrong. What do you guys think I should do?
"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
Valentines day question
- Thread starter Gandhi
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"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"
She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.
Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.
The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.
VladPatton
Master Don Juan
She seems to have a bit of an entitlement issue eh? Fück Valentine's Day and it's Nazi following. Don't even bring it up. Disappear. Let some other chump spend the money on her and get a handshake at the end of the night.
alpha_ash
Senior Don Juan
Gandhi, are you Indian? And what is the ethnic background of the girl? One of the things that you have to keep in mind is that as a man you have to be flexible. You must look at the cultural aspect because that is the way the girl was raised. For example, I would do handle things differently with a white chic from an upperclass background than with an Indian chic from a middle class background (although I have never done anything with an Indian chic before haha).
Do you get my point? Some of these guys will play the same hand with EVERY single girl and then wonder why most end up in rejections. Cater your game to the girl as you get to know her.
Do you get my point? Some of these guys will play the same hand with EVERY single girl and then wonder why most end up in rejections. Cater your game to the girl as you get to know her.
"I just moved here from Florida."
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
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If i do her homework it usually involves c0ck in pkssy