Why "Whatever You Want" Keeps You Single

She says the movie looks dumb; you suddenly agree. She tests you with a little attitude; you apologize for nothing.

You think you're being easy to get along with. She reads something else entirely: a man with no edges. Nothing to hold on to. No friction, no tension, no reason to wonder what he really thinks.

The "22 Rules" taught me to push back — playfully, calmly, without needing her approval. Strange things happened after that.

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Valentines Day Gift Ideas

djnewb

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Hey Everyone

Valentines day is coming up, and i'm looking for ideas on what to get my girlfriend. We've been together for about a month so far so i'm not sure what things I could get that would be significant / special.

So far i'm planning Rose/Roses , some candy ..... and i'm kinda stuck on there.


Any ideas will be appreciated

Thanks in advance

P.S: This is a quiet / shy / conservative / christian girl, so nothing too outrageous please
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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OzyBoy

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I'm not buying anything. I think just being with someone, telling them how you feel about them, a few hugs and kisses and maybe just a flower or something like that is enough. :)
 

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Buy your self something nice with the money! Like a dvd, then invite her around.
 

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My 2c

What i think i am going to do, is buy my chick this silver heart necklace that opens up, and on the inside on each side it will have our names ingraved into the silver.... i think thats a nice gift.... but that depends on how "involved" you are with your gf;) If you are not THAT intimate with her yet, then something small like a rose or maybe a little teddy-bear with a heart on it will do the job just fine;)


Laterz...
 

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Originally posted by djnewb
Hey Everyone

Valentines day is coming up, and i'm looking for ideas on what to get my girlfriend. We've been together for about a month so far so i'm not sure what things I could get that would be significant / special.

So far i'm planning Rose/Roses , some candy ..... and i'm kinda stuck on there.


Any ideas will be appreciated

Thanks in advance

P.S: This is a quiet / shy / conservative / christian girl, so nothing too outrageous please
Either a couple roses or maybe one of those little heart-shaped boxes of Russel Stoever chocolate. Both isn't necessary, and keep it light and simple. You've only been together a month.
 

“The 22 Rules That Flip the Script With Women… And How You Can Use Them Tonight”

Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.

Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers.  Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.

I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.

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DeathDealer

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Well, it's only been a month.. should be light. If it's been more than 6 months.. then perhaps something more $$$pecial is needed. But treat V-day as any other date except with V-day emphasis.
 

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I haven't read the DJ bible in a while, so I don't know if it's covered (it likely is), but why are you worrying so much about buying her something? Just get her something if you want, or take her out and do something, or just stay at home and do something. Enough second-guessing already.
 

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its a waste of time... just another dirty gimmick made ot remove you from your money adn show women how much you feel for them by buying them things... nice picnic down by the beach or some ****, write a ****ing poem or something... the whole single rose idea is a good one, maybe just go somewhere for lunch or something... i really dont get into the whole "Shower woman with gifts because society says I should" kinda deal... if you feel a certain way about a girl you should randomly do that kinda thing anyway if thats what kind of person you are,... why should one day dictate that you should be more loving and affectionate than every other day... meh. money buys *****s, not love.
 

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Bloody commercialism, i hate it. You only live once - yeah i would rather have a savings then buy something extravegent at every single opportunity and have no money left.
 

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bring her to ur place...and cook somethin special dude ....u can get some quick tips from some cook book or well mommy can always lend a helpin hand coachin u up in a couple of days....and of course make sure she survives ur cooking as well ;)
 

"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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forget valentines day...last night i got into a hugee fight with my girlfriend and im hoping its gonna carry through valentines day so i can save money :p that's atleast $50+ of saving.
 

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u had a fight?
well almost the same but well i dumped my girl(massive problems) almost 2 weeks ago..and now i am happy that i get to go to some club on valentines day and just flirt around....if there are any "single" noteworthy girls who are flirtable with ;)
 

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Originally posted by xhikari
u had a fight?
well almost the same but well i dumped my girl(massive problems) almost 2 weeks ago..and now i am happy that i get to go to some club on valentines day and just flirt around....if there are any "single" noteworthy girls who are flirtable with ;)
bro i heard clubs on valentines day are the best, full of desperate girls with low self esteem because they have no dates on valentines day.
 

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Originally posted by PurpleHaze
bro i heard clubs on valentines day are the best, full of desperate girls with low self esteem because they have no dates on valentines day.

sounds like good news to me..... ;)
just hope they don't turn into freaks when they are desperate , u know what i mean.
 

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Originally posted by PurpleHaze
bro i heard clubs on valentines day are the best, full of desperate girls with low self esteem because they have no dates on valentines day.
Is that before or after they start stalking you?
 

"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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squirrels

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Originally posted by PurpleHaze
bro i heard clubs on valentines day are the best, full of desperate girls with low self esteem because they have no dates on valentines day.
Desperate...
Low Self-Esteem...

Hmm...you forgot to mention FAT!!!!!!

Oh yeah, and....UGLY!!!!!

:D
 

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Originally posted by squirrels
Desperate...
Low Self-Esteem...

Hmm...you forgot to mention FAT!!!!!!

Oh yeah, and....UGLY!!!!!

:D
I bet girls say the same way about guys like you at clubs. "All I see are... fat... and ugly..and balding guys!"
 

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Originally posted by DeathDealer
I bet girls say the same way about guys like you at clubs. "All I see are... fat... and ugly..and balding guys!"
even if we are not one???? :p
 
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