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Valentines Day coming up, best course of action? Discuss!

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Valentines Day = Febuary 14th, and thats less than two weeks away. What makes it nice is that this one will be on a Saturday, so an event can be planned for the day.

Ive been going out with this girlfriend for maybe a month, and I cant just ignore the day. What Im thinking is to plan something for that day, and give her a small box of chocolates ( I know she loves them ) and a single rose, somehow during the night. I have no idea what Im going to plan or how Im going to give them to her yet.

Give me some feedback, let me know if you guys think its too much, and feel free to share any ideas you all may have for Valentines day.
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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I know it seems romantic, but it stinks of AFC to me. Try to give her a memory instead of a gift, try something that she's always wanted to do but never has.
 

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well, thats going to take some creativity, yet the last thing I want to do is come on too strongly.

I am still not sure what I can do, but if I ignore the day I know her friends will kill me and she will wonder why I didnt do anything. This is why I started this thread.
 
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All you macho *****s

I am sick of you people like Jonny Football Player saying that giving ANYTHING to a girl is AFC. What is wrong with you? There is absolutely NOTHING wrong with giving your girl something on valentines day as long as you dont go overboard. A small box of chocolates and a rose for valentines day is perfect and she will love it. It is valentines day for gods sake, chill out with the macho i dont give girls anything garbage and learn how to be a damn boyfriend. Definately plan something special to do for the day as well though.
 

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Re: All you macho *****s

Originally posted by SomethingCreative
I am sick of you people like Jonny Football Player saying that giving ANYTHING to a girl is AFC. What is wrong with you? There is absolutely NOTHING wrong with giving your girl something on valentines day as long as you dont go overboard. A small box of chocolates and a rose for valentines day is perfect and she will love it. It is valentines day for gods sake, chill out with the macho i dont give girls anything garbage and learn how to be a damn boyfriend. Definately plan something special to do for the day as well though.
Agreed. You guys need to start realizing that giving something to a girl ESPECIALLY on valentines day isnt AFC, its fvcking human. Stop being pansy's and get her something small like he did. Thats a perfect gift.
 

"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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jonny football player

yep.


I'm sorry i made a mistake here. I posted this in response to some one asking for help. In my experience my idea works. But obviously you two have tried this out. So i'll take my ideas and help and keep them. Because that is what this board is about.

Definately plan something special to do for the day as well though.
Well damn me, wasn't that my advice? Just because you have an opinion, doesn't make it right.
 

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I am sick of you people like Jonny Football Player saying that giving ANYTHING to a girl is AFC.
Amen...you gotta get em' something on friggin VALENTINES DAY! or you'll be seen as a fvckin jerk (not in a good way (if their is a good jerk ;) ))

...maybee something small like
A small box of chocolates and a rose
....or something that they would not have never ever have expected. (I read somewhere that works reaaaally well).
 
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So you are telling me that you have not gotten your girl somethin on valentines day and it worked out well for ya? Hey, if it worked then more power to ya... but dont expect it to work again.
 

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ok i see your point. Now see mine.

Lets analyze with Jonny.

You: Here you are my love, a rose and chocolates for Valentines day.
HB:Why thankyou, this reminds me of last year when my previous boyfriend gave me , a rose and chocolates.
You: do you not like them?
HB: it's not that it's just i will have countless boyfriends over the years and every valentines day will be the same, this day will just fade into obscurity.

Get my point?

And by the way, where in any of my posts did i say ignore valentines day? i just said do something rather than give something.
 

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hmmmmmnn, im thinking she better get me something, since the 12th is my birthday, ill probably get her some form of chocalate, probably not a card since they suck
 

“The 22 Rules That Flip the Script With Women… And How You Can Use Them Tonight”

Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.

Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers.  Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.

I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.

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Like you said JFH, she won't remember the small gifts, and I didn't say to say I love anywhere. The point isn't that she will remember the gift or not, she shoudl remember the day like you said, not the gift. But it is just plain rude not to get your girl something on Valentines day, regardless of what it is.
 

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I was going to give like 5 girls red condoms and tell them all its the key to my heart.
Then smile. :D
As of yet, no luck with the red condoms. If ic an find none, they all get a hug.
 

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johnny football hero makes a good point, but I dont think this particular girl has ever goten a rose and a small box of chocolates for Valentines.

Thanks to everyone who replied. yes, something definately will happen at Valentines day, and since now I have one of my friends involved with one of her friends, it might turn into a double-date sort of thing.
 

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I dont know where i got this from, but a girl said "a valentines gift is worthless if you just buy her one gift in the whole yr" - i agree, she knows a gift is coming, give her a memory not money
 

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Gentlemen... do not stress yourselves on this holiday. Perhaps many of you have forgotten one important thing about Valentine's Day. Many of you are probably sitting at home trying to think of something very creative and dashing for your better half... save your brain matter. Unless you have been with your girlfriend for more than six months (if that is the case, feel free to IM me for creative ideas) the Valentine's Day basics will more than do. For women... Valentine's Day is about the sentiment, not the gift. It is not about you gentlemen... it is about her. She wants to parade around your school with ballons, bears and flowers. So save yourself the trouble, hassle, and headache... be typical. Get her, her flowers and ballons or chocolates so she can show them off to all of her friends... especially the ones with Valentine's. Again... if you have been with a girl longer than 1/2 a year... I can give you some good ideas.
 

“The 22 Rules That Flip the Script With Women… And How You Can Use Them Tonight”

Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.

Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers.  Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.

I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.

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