The concept and use of “romance” is extremely misunderstood. When men try to be romantic it actually does more harm then good most of the time. The problem is our idea of what’s romantic comes from sources like Hollywood. We see the losers in the movies do corny things like write love notes, buy flowers, sing songs, etc…and they actually get the girl in the end like this.
Don’t confused what happens in the movies with what happens in real life…
Everyone would be getting laid if all you had to do was buy a girl flowers and write her notes.
Here’s the secret of using romance: You can’t build attraction using romance.
You can be romantic with a woman AFTER she’s attracted to you and you’ve established emotional connection. In simple terms…use it after you’re in a relationship with her or you’ve slept with her. Don’t do it before.
Why is Romance ineffective in the Beginning?
If a woman doesn’t like you and you’re doing **** like buying her flowers, then that shows you’re desperate or clingy. Women want a high quality guy that is desirable by many women. Obviously not a lot of girls want you if you’re showing her this much attention.
Using Romance Effectively
So let’s say that you have a girlfriend and you want to be a little romantic with her, there’s nothing wrong with that.
I believe that is the more unexpected it is…the better. Anyone can give a bouquet of flowers on Valentine’s day. If you do it for when she’s not expecting it then she’ll love it more. Women love spontaneous.
Another thing I believe in is that less is more. You don’t have to get her a bouquet of flowers, a single rose is fine. Another thing I rather do is write a post-it note saying “I miss you” rather than a long letter declaring my love to her.
The most important tip I can give is that whatever you do should be sincere and have thought behind it. Is she sick? If you go over and bring her chicken noodle soup and a magazine the thought behind it is that you care about her.
There’s nothing wrong with behind romantic if you do it right. Remember, you can’t chase girls by being romantic though.
Don’t confused what happens in the movies with what happens in real life…
Everyone would be getting laid if all you had to do was buy a girl flowers and write her notes.
Here’s the secret of using romance: You can’t build attraction using romance.
You can be romantic with a woman AFTER she’s attracted to you and you’ve established emotional connection. In simple terms…use it after you’re in a relationship with her or you’ve slept with her. Don’t do it before.
Why is Romance ineffective in the Beginning?
If a woman doesn’t like you and you’re doing **** like buying her flowers, then that shows you’re desperate or clingy. Women want a high quality guy that is desirable by many women. Obviously not a lot of girls want you if you’re showing her this much attention.
Using Romance Effectively
So let’s say that you have a girlfriend and you want to be a little romantic with her, there’s nothing wrong with that.
I believe that is the more unexpected it is…the better. Anyone can give a bouquet of flowers on Valentine’s day. If you do it for when she’s not expecting it then she’ll love it more. Women love spontaneous.
Another thing I believe in is that less is more. You don’t have to get her a bouquet of flowers, a single rose is fine. Another thing I rather do is write a post-it note saying “I miss you” rather than a long letter declaring my love to her.
The most important tip I can give is that whatever you do should be sincere and have thought behind it. Is she sick? If you go over and bring her chicken noodle soup and a magazine the thought behind it is that you care about her.
There’s nothing wrong with behind romantic if you do it right. Remember, you can’t chase girls by being romantic though.