Using Romance Effectively Without Being a Chump

[lYlasTer]

The concept and use of “romance” is extremely misunderstood. When men try to be romantic it actually does more harm then good most of the time. The problem is our idea of what’s romantic comes from sources like Hollywood. We see the losers in the movies do corny things like write love notes, buy flowers, sing songs, etc…and they actually get the girl in the end like this.

Don’t confused what happens in the movies with what happens in real life…

Everyone would be getting laid if all you had to do was buy a girl flowers and write her notes.

Here’s the secret of using romance: You can’t build attraction using romance.

You can be romantic with a woman AFTER she’s attracted to you and you’ve established emotional connection. In simple terms…use it after you’re in a relationship with her or you’ve slept with her. Don’t do it before.

Why is Romance ineffective in the Beginning?

If a woman doesn’t like you and you’re doing **** like buying her flowers, then that shows you’re desperate or clingy. Women want a high quality guy that is desirable by many women. Obviously not a lot of girls want you if you’re showing her this much attention.

Using Romance Effectively

So let’s say that you have a girlfriend and you want to be a little romantic with her, there’s nothing wrong with that.

I believe that is the more unexpected it is…the better. Anyone can give a bouquet of flowers on Valentine’s day. If you do it for when she’s not expecting it then she’ll love it more. Women love spontaneous.

Another thing I believe in is that less is more. You don’t have to get her a bouquet of flowers, a single rose is fine. Another thing I rather do is write a post-it note saying “I miss you” rather than a long letter declaring my love to her.

The most important tip I can give is that whatever you do should be sincere and have thought behind it. Is she sick? If you go over and bring her chicken noodle soup and a magazine the thought behind it is that you care about her.

There’s nothing wrong with behind romantic if you do it right. Remember, you can’t chase girls by being romantic though.

 

[redspicyflag]

exactly
you've hit the nail on the head
use it during the comfort phase

 

[The Inside Man]

One time when I think I did that pretty well...I met a girl on vacation, gorgeous british girl, and the first night she stopped me at making out, the next night we were walking around and I stopped her at the top of a huge pool at the hotel and leaned in to kiss her...she says youre so romantic! then I had my first sex on the beach yay...but it was def. in the comfort phase, a "day 2". I like how you identify it as a tool vs. the mindset, an important distinction.

 

[lYlasTer]

One time when I think I did that pretty well...I met a girl on vacation, gorgeous british girl, and the first night she stopped me at making out, the next night we were walking around and I stopped her at the top of a huge pool at the hotel and leaned in to kiss her...she says youre so romantic! then I had my first sex on the beach yay...but it was def. in the comfort phase, a "day 2". I like how you identify it as a tool vs. the mindset, an important distinction.

You hit something important I want to bring up...

If she likes you, ANYTHING you do is romantic. Women LOVE romance and will actually IMAGINE it. Let me give you an example...

One of the girls I'm with gives me head all the time, but the problem is she has long hair and it gets in the way. She doesn't carry around hair ties or clips. So I was at Walmart and bought a small bad of the tie ins. The next time she went down on me, I gave her a bag of the ties so the hair won't get in the way and mess up my *******.

You know what happened?

"Oh my god that's so thoughtful of you, you're so romantic"

Seriously guys...I gave her a small bag of like rubberbands so I can get better *******s. She twisted it in a way that made it romantic to her.

lol women

 

[Bvbidd]

Crack Wh0re

You shoulda just bought her a 20 of crack that would be way more romantic.