"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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Using humor "correctly"

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So I have a question for you guys. I see a lot of you saying humor helps, and I also notice that in a lot of your approach journals and everything you use humor when approaching.

One problem I have is that I'm actually very funny, I can go to a party or a bar or whatever and have people I just met laughing all the time. My problem is I can't seem to translate that over to building attraction.

So my question is, if you already have a good sense of humor how do you use it the right way to build attraction, versus just being a fun guy to party with?
 

"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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Just dont make humor you main source of value. If you do that, you turn into 'dancing monkey boy,' or the court jester. Dont forget to be plenty serious at the same time. There is a line between the 'life of the party,' and the parties 'entertainment.' Another way to put it is to not use humor to 'win' people over. If you do that, you have established yourself as lower value. Have a mindset that you are 'rewarding people' with laughter, if they prove themselves worthy first.

Try using humor as your opener, and to make your set comfortable with your presence. Then you need to switch to serious mode, so they know you arent just the party clown, throwing humor in a little more sparingly.
 
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exactly....humor is a good tool but cant be your only one...use it sparingly or youll turn into court jester like above poster said...remember your ultimate goal isnt to make girls laugh, its to build attraction
 
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"You can be funny, as long as you still have character."
-Conan O'brien on his final episode at late night

It's good you have that ability, but make sure you don't use disguising who you really are as a person. Nobody can really know what you're like as a person unless you show your serious side as well, confidently.
 

"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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