"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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Using humor "correctly"

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So I have a question for you guys. I see a lot of you saying humor helps, and I also notice that in a lot of your approach journals and everything you use humor when approaching.

One problem I have is that I'm actually very funny, I can go to a party or a bar or whatever and have people I just met laughing all the time. My problem is I can't seem to translate that over to building attraction.

So my question is, if you already have a good sense of humor how do you use it the right way to build attraction, versus just being a fun guy to party with?
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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Just dont make humor you main source of value. If you do that, you turn into 'dancing monkey boy,' or the court jester. Dont forget to be plenty serious at the same time. There is a line between the 'life of the party,' and the parties 'entertainment.' Another way to put it is to not use humor to 'win' people over. If you do that, you have established yourself as lower value. Have a mindset that you are 'rewarding people' with laughter, if they prove themselves worthy first.

Try using humor as your opener, and to make your set comfortable with your presence. Then you need to switch to serious mode, so they know you arent just the party clown, throwing humor in a little more sparingly.
 
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exactly....humor is a good tool but cant be your only one...use it sparingly or youll turn into court jester like above poster said...remember your ultimate goal isnt to make girls laugh, its to build attraction
 
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"You can be funny, as long as you still have character."
-Conan O'brien on his final episode at late night

It's good you have that ability, but make sure you don't use disguising who you really are as a person. Nobody can really know what you're like as a person unless you show your serious side as well, confidently.
 

"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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