"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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Using Conan o Brian's conversation style on a date

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just wondering if you guys think that would be good.

The topic is all about the chick, asking her questions about herself and at the same time making fun of her.

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mystery's style of conversation where you have to always "SAY SOMETHING INTERESTING". It just seems like with the mystery method, the guy is the one who has to TRY
 

"You Can't Argue a Woman Into Liking You"

You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.

She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.

Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.

Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.

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That's because the guy IS the one that has to try.

But if you're smart, you keep the girl talking about herself most of the time and its not hard. All you have to do is direct the conversation.

Oh, and Conan O'Brian acts like a spaz, at least on his show. That won't get you a girl.
 

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verysuave said:
just wondering if you guys think that would be good.

The topic is all about the chick, asking her questions about herself and at the same time making fun of her.

VS

mystery's style of conversation where you have to always "SAY SOMETHING INTERESTING". It just seems like with the mystery method, the guy is the one who has to TRY
So how would you display your value, ragging on the girl? :confused:
 

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Can you expalain what you mean by "displaying your value". COnan O Brian's way of convo is a little extreme. Of course im thinking of only using 20% of his convo style
 

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Conan is an entertainer. If you try to emulate him, you'll be the little dancing monkey for any girl you try to chat up. He's too active, TOO funny.
 

“The 22 Rules That Flip the Script With Women… And How You Can Use Them Tonight”

Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.

Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers.  Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.

I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.

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Craig isn't on the late late show anymore, right? Its that British dude now.

Look man, maybe you shouldn't be looking at talk shows for inspiration? Lol.
 

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I think Conan is lame, but you're definitely onto something. Maybe the Jay Leno style instead.

Definitely don't talk much about yourself, and definitely don't try very hard to entertain.
 

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verysuave said:
Can you expalain what you mean by "displaying your value". COnan O Brian's way of convo is a little extreme. Of course im thinking of only using 20% of his convo style
Alright, frankly; why would a woman want to talk to you or give you her attention?
 

"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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Unless you've got the cash to hire Conan O'Brien to come entertain the girl, you're going to have to be yourself.

I think it's fun to be genuinely interested in the girl, let her yap about herself, and tease her along the way, which shows you're willing to take what she says seriously but at the same time you don't take her, yourself, or the situation too seriously either. You find little things to tease her about and from that if she's interested she will try to qualify herself.

The moment you're thinking about how you should act or the way you should say something (other than knowing you want to have a light, fun, playful time) you're dead.
 

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I love Conan's show, the guy's hilarious. I don't laugh much at Leno's jokes.

I think your analysis works. I try to do something as described. But trouble is how do you change from being comical to being attractive to her sexually, instead of just being a funny guy that can have a good convo?
 
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Interesting fact - Conan graduated from Harvard - he is not a dim-wit - actually he is quick witted!
 

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Interesting fact - Conan graduated from Harvard - he is not a dim-wit - actually he is quick witted!

quick-witted is an understatement... the guy deserves his spot.

as does Jay Leno, I have seen him spit out some speed blinding liners. Although Leno makes a big deal when he does it, like "Everyone clap and cheer for my brilliancy I just gave you.. cause you wont see it again for another few minutes". When on the other side Conan is relentless and unstoppable in his comebacks and his comparisons etc... they roll one on top of the other! The guy is a master of HIS style.

But who knows how "off the Cuff" these guys really are, could be pre-planned.

But Conan is EXTREMELY egotistical... Thats his humor. He is either building himself up or completely tearing himself down. its 90% 'Me, Me, Me'.


....so if you want to come off as an egotistical maniac on 5 cups of coffee, then by all means ;)

I'm just kidding, Conan is a natural. Chicks would love him. Do love him. If you had half the charm and wit, then hats off to you my friend.... just don't be so self centered as he is, cause thats simply he selling point for an audience
 

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I think you should use your own style. I don't even know what you are saying. Conversation style is not measurable, so how can you use 20% of it???

Why don't you be natural arround her and say what comes into your mind? Fuk using some other guys personality, use your own, it's the one that suits you best.
 

"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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