"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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Using a mutual friend for a hookup

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I recently met this a married couple who I'm beginning to hang out with more frequently. I've taken boating trips with them, went to a few festivals with them and a few other friends. They have a very hot and single friend that I've seen in their Facebook photos. Checking her page, she's single and posted some graphic the other day about "why I'm still single" which means she's probably been on the prowl, lonely, etc.

So what is the best way to approach my new friends about this girl without coming off creeperish, stalkerish, desparate, etc. They know I'm single at the moment...and they haven't tried to pair us up yet...but I want to bring it up.

Am I crossing any boundaries here? Advice on how to set this in motion?

Thanks!
 

"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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I don't think you are "crossing any boundaries."

I think most couples would be happy to introduce you to a single friend. First, very casually ask the couple "Who's the girl that..." Keep it casual so it sounds like curiousity, not you stalking her online lol. Then try the following...

1. Pick an activity that you like to do with this couple that you are either skilled at and/or passionate about. This is key. You need to "shine" there.

2. IF you are on very good terms with the wife in this couple, tell her you would like to meet her friend xyz. Ask if they can invite her to this event. Otherwise, talk to the guy and have him set it up with wifey.

The worst that could happen is they don't follow up on it and "forget" to invite her.

The best that can happen is you meet this chick via an extended social circle with no cawkblocks.
 

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Mike32ct said:
I don't think you are "crossing any boundaries."

I think most couples would be happy to introduce you to a single friend. First, very casually ask the couple "Who's the girl that..." Keep it casual so it sounds like curiousity, not you stalking her online lol. Then try the following...

1. Pick an activity that you like to do with this couple that you are either skilled at and/or passionate about. This is key. You need to "shine" there.

2. IF you are on very good terms with the wife in this couple, tell her you would like to meet her friend xyz. Ask if they can invite her to this event. Otherwise, talk to the guy and have him set it up with wifey.

The worst that could happen is they don't follow up on it and "forget" to invite her.

The best that can happen is you meet this chick via an extended social circle with no cawkblocks.
Great advice! Thanks.
 
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