For me it was her mowing the lawn and shoveling the snow.
"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
Users that joined in the early 10s or late 00s, are you still there?
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"I just moved here from Florida."
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
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I joined back in 2013 (the date on this profile) as Grewd. I locked myself out of that account late 2019, joined again a month or two later as Serenity. Grewd no longer exists, but the posts do since it was all merged into this account.
I joined because I had social anxiety, failed miserably every time I did find the courage and wanted to take a hard look at what my problem was. The problem was resolved a long time ago, but the topic of this forum still fascinates me and something about passing it on to the next guy in that situation.
I don't post as much as I used to, it takes time to write good posts and my life is busier than it used to be. I do check the forums every day and toss in my 2 cents if I have the time.
I joined because I had social anxiety, failed miserably every time I did find the courage and wanted to take a hard look at what my problem was. The problem was resolved a long time ago, but the topic of this forum still fascinates me and something about passing it on to the next guy in that situation.
I don't post as much as I used to, it takes time to write good posts and my life is busier than it used to be. I do check the forums every day and toss in my 2 cents if I have the time.