"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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Use your quiet time!

Syren

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It struck me today while on the train that many of us can be making better use of those moments in life where it feels like we are waiting around for something good to happen.

But how is this possible Mr Syren?

How many of us regularly commute on the train, or find ourselves listening to music while travelling? I find it is in these moments I am at my most inspired, the sun comes out from behind the clouds and I feel alive. Take a journal, notepad or even use your phone's calendar function to remind yourself of something. If you think of a routine, a business idea, ANYTHING don't let the moment of inspiration pass you by.

Inspiration is like a river that runs regardless of how we react to it. We can choose to take advantage of inspiration when it happens.

Savour the moments of good feeling
Chew on the sensation of enjoying life
Revel in your conviction and INSISTENCE that you have the POWER to change your life.

Every second you exist you have the potential to turn a passing idea, into something that really matters, you can change your life, someone else's life, or even the world. Let yourself achieve, push for success, it's waiting for you with open arms.
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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flippinfreak

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I get my best ideas as I lay in bed trying to fall asleep.

When I first found Sosuave it dissapeared, but it's baaaaack.
 

"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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