"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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urgh..day one...failure

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djinhell

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Ok, this was my post yesterday http://www.sosuave.net/forum/showthread.php?t=153873

trying to shake up my life, and get more confident with women to get dates etc.

DAY ONE, and it was pretty much one big failure. For some reason, whenever there is an attractive woman around and I do have the courage to look at them, I seem to fail to smile..whats up with that!? I guess I just have to let go of inhibition and smile..I think im worried about looking like a sleazy perv lol

On the plus, I did speak to a girl in my class who I haven't before, and I felt more confident with my body language for the most part and I think an opportunity did present itself clearly for me to chat to a girl I would of used the 3-second rule and gone for it (always tomorrow I guess). Oh, is there much point in me chatting with girls who work in sales stores (to start me off) because they guaranteed will talk to you

The problem is I want to get to the Don Juan status and be chatting up girls everywhere with no worries. I need to start approaching, even if its just to speak to girls and not necessarily try to close with number.

Thoughts much appreciated guys

dj in hell
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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Squidward

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There is always tomorrow mate, look back and see what you can improve on and try and do it the next day.

"whenever there is an attractive woman around and I do have the courage to look at them, I seem to fail to smile..whats up with that!? I guess I just have to let go of inhibition and smile..I think im worried about looking like a sleazy perv lol"

I think you'd come of more of a pervert if you don't smile, but why would you be a pervert for checking out a hot girl?! Embrace your sexuality!

Never let slow progress get you down. It's like watching a clock: If you spend all your time looking at it, the hands move slowly, but if you don't look it for some time, it seems like the hands have moved more than they should of!

Good luck.
 
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slaog

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djinhell said:
Ok, this was my post yesterday http://www.sosuave.net/forum/showthread.php?t=153873

trying to shake up my life, and get more confident with women to get dates etc.

DAY ONE, and it was pretty much one big failure. For some reason, whenever there is an attractive woman around and I do have the courage to look at them, I seem to fail to smile..whats up with that!? I guess I just have to let go of inhibition and smile..I think im worried about looking like a sleazy perv lol

On the plus, I did speak to a girl in my class who I haven't before, and I felt more confident with my body language for the most part and I think an opportunity did present itself clearly for me to chat to a girl I would of used the 3-second rule and gone for it (always tomorrow I guess). Oh, is there much point in me chatting with girls who work in sales stores (to start me off) because they guaranteed will talk to you

The problem is I want to get to the Don Juan status and be chatting up girls everywhere with no worries. I need to start approaching, even if its just to speak to girls and not necessarily try to close with number.

Thoughts much appreciated guys

dj in hell
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It wasn't a failure. You talked to a girl who you havn't spoken to before. Thats already progress after just one day. Look at the positives always.
 
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