URGENT - how to make a girl forget about her ex

[Pure Drive +]

hey my oneitis just broke up withher BF. I need to pull off some stuff fast meaning making her forget about her ex.

but you see, she is kinda hurting over it cuz he cheated on her and he is acting like nothing happened. apparently this guy is DJ is broke up without a hitch like there was no problem. he's macking other girls now.

i've talked to her about this and i'd say i'm the primary guy she is talking to/hanging with/(emotional tamponing?) right now. So, how do I get her unhooked/thinking/hurting over this guy. btw, they went out for 1.5 years but they're like opposites and their schedules didn't quite match so he kinda gave up on her and went ot find girls who'd put out easier.

however, i like her and need to get her to stop thinking about the guy...i don't wanna be a rebound joke.

 

[So pimp its scary]

is this what the forum has been reduced to, Asking about a girl that you are infatuated with??

Rally guy, based on what you wrote, you don't have to worry abut being a rebound, you are soo deep in friend zone that you don't stand a chance at that...

Maybe if your lucky she might just use you as her last resort one night or something...

 

[Pure Drive +]

Originally posted by So pimp its scary
is this what the forum has been reduced to, Asking about a girl that you are infatuated with??

Rally guy, based on what you wrote, you don't have to worry abut being a rebound, you are soo deep in friend zone that you don't stand a chance at that...

Maybe if your lucky she might just use you as her last resort one night or something...

Sh1t. Ok thanks man. I guess I was just happy that someone had payed attention me. I'm gonna move on now....this sucks.

EDIT: how should I act/say if she comes to me again with her problems? I mean, she's a friend and I don'twanna say, "fuk off" but then again I don't wanna be a tampon either....so confused. I thought she liked me.

 

[TedJustAdmitIt]

The great thing about retarded posts like this is they highlight the people NOT to take advice from

EDIT:You are already an emotional tampon...I'd make her your emotional tampon as well and start turning your attention to the other 100,000s of women in the world.

 

[Pure Drive +]

Originally posted by Ted,JustAdmitIt
The great thing about retarded posts like this is they highlight the people NOT to take advice from

EDIT:You are already an emotional tampon...I'd make her your emotional tampon as well and start turning your attention to the other 100,000s of women in the world.

ok. I....really don't have emotional problems other than this though. I don't think I can talk to her about her. You know what, I'm just going to cut my losses on this one. Dammit...the signals probably weren't even signals.

By the way, were you calling me retarded?

 

[TillTheEndOfTime]

Originally posted by Pure Drive +
By the way, were you calling me retarded?

No he was calling your POST retarded. Attack the problem, not the person.

 

[Pure Drive +]

I think I've become so desperate for this girl that I prefer being an emotional tampon to her than to be nothing. We're talking more than ever now and I guess I fooled myself into thinking that she was more interested, but that was just hopeful thinking.

 

[Pure Drive +]

Originally posted by TillTheEndOfTime
No he was calling your POST retarded. Attack the problem, not the person.

ok cool. help me attack this problem.

 

[JSH]

DAFS, do a ****1ng search

Btw: there are NLP techniques that will work, like the boyfriend destroyer. However, if your not on top of your game (as you are not, because ur obsessed about this one girl), then i doubt they will work.

Hint: one method is when she next starts talking about her boyfriend and *****ing about him, is to get her to imagine him in a really really defenceless position and then get her to put him inside something like a ball and throw him away. Make her physically throw away her emotions.

 

[christz]

i just wanna say that although you are in the friendszone, you can pull out of it, sometimes a little easier than others espeiclly if you two had a thing/fling that went on prior to the girl getting into her serious relationship.

you really know if she gets jelous over other girls that are with you, its all about doing your thing and let her be around you and do her's.

its a big long thing, but if she's attracted to you, your personality talks about you to friends, other guys she's with and all that good shyt and you test the water by neg hitting or suggesting things. such as

"i don't think you can handel me"
"yeah right its you who couldn't handel me!"
"we'll have to see about that one"
"maybe we might"

your in a good place and chances are she'll be yours in time as long as you stay on top of your game

 

[LikRetsam]

Wasn't this posted in the highschool forum as well? What level are we talking about man? HS? College? Mature man discussion?

 

[Pure Drive +]

oh yeah. sorry. this is High school.

I know you got with your best friend Lik, and it turned out well for both of you. See, I'm her friend and I'm pretty sure a pretty good one...sure call me an emotional tampon, but she has never unloaded on me until now so I think it is ok (plz tell me if it is not).

So she broke up with her BF, but is mad/frustrated that he's not bothered by the break up. So basically, he's being DJ and not being attached and stuff and apparently it's driving her crazy.

I think I'm being used, but I'm accepting it because like Isaid, I've liked her for a long time, and prefer to be at least something rather than nothgin.

 

[christz]

Originally posted by Pure Drive +
oh yeah. sorry. this is High school.

I know you got with your best friend Lik, and it turned out well for both of you. See, I'm her friend and I'm pretty sure a pretty good one...sure call me an emotional tampon, but she has never unloaded on me until now so I think it is ok (plz tell me if it is not).

So she broke up with her BF, but is mad/frustrated that he's not bothered by the break up. So basically, he's being DJ and not being attached and stuff and apparently it's driving her crazy.

I think I'm being used, but I'm accepting it because like Isaid, I've liked her for a long time, and prefer to be at least something rather than nothgin.

why don't you do something about it then instead of just standing around?

apply some kino, flirt sexually to her, I mean there are so many things you can do to build up a foundation to a relationship its not even funny, and all your doing is asking us is it ok that she's talking to you.

Uhhhh YEAH its ok. But what's not ok is your not doing anything with the attention your reciveing, why don't you push up on her and then let off, give her a little hot cold show her your intrested WITHOUT telling her, and then show her that you can walk away if you have to.

Why don't you hang around other chicks that SHE knows are attractive, around her. show her other girls like you and want to be with you.

the ghey part about your post is your asking for advice but your not applying anything said

 

[Pure Drive +]

Dude it is the freakin weekend and next week is when the big AP Tests hit. That comes first for me over women ok?

AFter that (2 weeks of testing), I will get back on the job with this girl, while maintaining contact and proabbly getting with her to study before that.

 

[christz]

Originally posted by Pure Drive +
Dude it is the freakin weekend and next week is when the big AP Tests hit. That comes first for me over women ok?

AFter that (2 weeks of testing), I will get back on the job with this girl, while maintaining contact and proabbly getting with her to study before that.

finally an attitude worth something.

 

[Pure Drive +]

Originally posted by christz
finally an attitude worth something.

Hey I will update after next week or whenever something happens. Right now, I'm just kidna prepping myself, but I guess you can't plan for everything so I'll go with the flow and what I know as of now. Thanks for your help and stay tuned.

 

[Pure Drive +]

ok I changed my mind. I'm not even going to try with this girl. We're just going to stay friends and besides the whole getting out of the friend zone thing is up to her (quoteth Mr. Fingz).

I'm putting too much effort into this one girl. I'm just going to act normal and stuff and be myself. Even just thinking about acting for her is tiring....there is no way I am going to stress myself out like that in reality.

 

[diablo]

Originally posted by Pure Drive +
oh yeah. sorry. this is High school.

 

[xomel]

If she's still thinking about her ex, obviously she isn't ready for a relationship. Ask her "Since you're still thinking about your ex, do you think we should just take a hold on a sec?"

 

[Pure Drive +]

Yeah she needs to get over him first. Anyways, I talked to her ex yesterday and he kinda freaked that I was gonna ask her out. Me and her and a lot more comfortable near each other talking and hanging out now, and I think her ex had something to do with it while they went out. He didn't like it when she talked to other guys and gave her a lot of crap about that.

I can learn from that by being secure and knowing she is mine when I ask her out.