"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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ocbeachbum

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Ok its now sunday evening and Friday night I got a girls number at a club. Quick setup. She was looking at me so I approached. We danced all night (didnt really talk much). She went for the kiss on me. I told her I wanted to hang out sometime and got the number and she was like "you better call!". I really liked her because we had fun and we werent even drunk. Well I want to call her cuz technically its 2 days but i knew not to call Sunday during the day and we are in pittsburgh and I know she is a steeler fan as am I and the game starts at 8:15 tonight. So i figured she may be tied up. She might be going out of course she may also be sitting at home like me because i work early tomorrow.

Point is, I dont think it would be too soon but I dont want to run the risk of catching her at a bar or with friends and then get "can i call you back". I dont want that but I want to talk to her and I dont want her to think I forgot about her. She seemed very worried about that.

Please give me advice as time is approaching!
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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amethyst

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Just ****ing call her! Maybe ask her to see the game at some pub or take her to a coffee house... The more you think about it the more likely you are to Screw up :p.

Love

Amethyst
 

penkitten

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i agree with what he said
call her up before you loose your stones
 

DinoCassanova

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I myself usually wait about 7.5 days, if I call at all, after procuring a # , lately.

I'm not saying that's necessarily the way to go, because you might well forget about her by then, but she'll definitely remember you and she'll be very happy you suddenly called. Just make sure you were busy all week, possibly even out of town, even if you had all week off. That's what I usually do at least, seems to work alright. But again, I'm not saying that's necessarily the way to go for all guys in every given situation.

~Dino~
 

Damian

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There are two ways this could end up:

1- call her, bring her to the game, but violate the 2-day rule. If you can keep your game on, that shouldn't be a problem

2- Go to the game with your own buddies, call her a few days later and say, "I would've called you sooner, but I went to the game with my friends." For a push-pull factor. That may get that lady hooked.

Your decision.

-Damian
 

"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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MightyMate

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You should call her later and even say You had free tickets. It will make her think, that she should hook up with You because You are cool. Calling in 2 days is nothing cool. Btw do You think girl that dances with unknown man full night and gives hi ma kiss without kowing him is good material for gf?
 
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