"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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Last Man Standing said:
Do you want me to talk to her? :rolleyes:

Ask her that you couldn't figure out what she was mouthing to you and you are curious. If it's insulting then say - "you're a nice girl" - sarcastically!!!!
I probably would have said that if I wasn't so frozen up by it. Ever play baseball? It was like the first time a fast ball was coming straight at you but your so stunned you don't even move, but you learned next time you need to get out of the way. I was trying to keep eye contact while she was interacting with me but her lips are so nice, but so are her eyes so it was easier to keep eye contact. I didn't want to be checking out her body as she was talking to me. Wouldn't it be awkward to ask her about something that happened 4 days ago?
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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After 4 days - yes, it shows her that you are scared to approach. Just tell her you don't read lips. do you have a better opener?
 
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Last Man Standing said:
After 4 days - yes, it shows her that you are scared to approach. Just tell her you don't read lips. do you have a better opener?
You seem like the expert, so don't you think I should start with something new? Wouldn't it make me look like I lack confidence for not asking her when it happened?
 
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I gave you that line in a previous post.
 
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Last Man Standing said:
I gave you that line in a previous post.
Don't you think it would be random to approach her like that in a class room setting? Conversations are usually heard by others in this class.
 

"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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Put a note on her desk then.
 
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Don The Magic Juan said:
Outdated and total lack of confidence shown.
hahaha, so you want a modern high tech solution?:) Make the note into a plane and guide it with a laser beam with the aid of GPS and aim for her forehead!:

You are finding excuses not to approach - find a solution to approach!
 
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hahaha, so you want a modern high tech solution?:) Make the note into a plane and guide it with a laser beam with the aid of GPS and aim for her forehead!:

You are finding excuses not to approach - find a solution to approach!
Okay, I will try to do so on Monday.
 
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I got some last minute questions that I think some of you may be able to answer.

What do you think she thinks of me right now?

Does it mean anything that she looks at me or is it not a big deal?

What words do you think she was mouthing to me?

Besides the conversation about me waxing my eyebrows earlier in the year and her mouthing those words to me on Thursday the only other things she has said to me was "That jacket is the ugliest jacket I ever scene" and "That's a shiny shirt". Interpretation?
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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Don The Magic Juan said:
...only other things she has said to me was "That jacket is the ugliest jacket I ever scene" and "That's a shiny shirt". Interpretation?
It means your jacket is ugly and your shirt is shiny! :rolleyes:

Take this to the High School Forum!
 

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Don The Magic Juan said:
No, it's not like I get them all taken off. Just the middle so it doesn't form a unibrow.
:crackup: :crackup: Hahaha, bro, just take 15 seconds and tweeze/shave them yourself once a week. Saves you $20 paying some salon to do it for you.
 
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She made eye contact with me once briefly. No chances of talking to her whatsoever. Tomorrow is the last class (and shortened class)
 
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You didn't talk to her did you?

All that counsel for nothing!
 
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