Urgent Advice about marrage

[john1234]

My GF said she really wants a ring for a present, she mentioned it was because she doent have one and just likes one. I say ok, I will think about it but I have something else in mind.

So I eventually buy a ring and on presenting it to her she says I have claimed her and we are now engaged! and told her friends? Is this standard procedure? and she was very very excited, so I have kept my cool.

 

[amoka]

My GF said she really wants a ring for a present, she mentioned it was because she doent have one and just likes one. I say ok, I will think about it but I have something else in mind.

So I eventually buy a ring and on presenting it to her she says I have claimed her and we are now engaged! and told her friends? Is this standard procedure? and she was very very excited, so I have kept my cool.

Is this a troll?

 

[john1234]

certainly not

 

[Scaramouche]

Dear John,
"so I have kept my cool".....So what else have you learned here in the last six months John?.....OK so you can't really say you were drunk,but whatever you do don't let her Rail Road the show with a date!.....be evasive say things like I am not going to marry you till we own a Home good enough for you!

 

[john1234]

"so I have kept my cool".....So what else have you learned here in the last six months John?.....OK so you can't really say you were drunk,but whatever you do don't let her Rail Road the show with a date!.....be evasive say things like I am not going to marry you till we own a Home good enough for you!

thanks, I reckon this sounds better, to be evasive because we live together and don't want a bad situation.
I know I made a big mistake to buy the ring, but I was foolish and didn't understand the consequences as I have spoken to other women and they think that you only give a ring if you want to go the distance. I personally need a lot more time to make any kind of decision like this.

 

[Bible_Belt]

Tell her it was a "promise ring." You promise to think about marrying her one of these days.

 

[john1234]

Tell her it was a "promise ring." You promise to think about marrying her one of these days.

did not mention nothing to her yet apart from ok ,ok,ok , however she is now acting distant and I can't figure her out.

 

[evan12]

It is silly how women these days playing men and men "keeping it cool" even evenery one else know it is wrong .
man this called scam , she engaged herself to you without your consent , and you know that but you are afraid to speak .
What would she do if you did that for her ?
you are proving for her that she can force you to any thing she want .
rollback the situation and tell all the friends you are not engaged yet and it is just a joke , if she tell you you embarrassed me , tell her this is a lesson to not say thing on behalf of me

 

[GhengisT]

Tell her it was a "promise ring." You promise to think about marrying her one of these days.

+ 1

 

[Boilermaker]

Tell her it was a "promise ring." You promise to think about marrying her one of these days.

:crackup:

This guy's IQ is easily 200.

I am not kidding.

Love you BibleB

 

[Scaramouche]

Dear BoilerMaker,
Yes Bibles got his fair share of smarts when the Good Lord was shovelling them out!...But getting back to John...I agree a Promise Ring or Friendship ring....Your Woman is very tricky,she will spring you in front of witnesses,so be prepared...One of them will ask,when the big day is?...You MUST have a plausible answer ready....A year,two years out,can often seem safe,when she suggests it,but it isn't....Sure as God makes little Apples it rolls around...You are involved in a Battle of wits with this Girl,the stakes are high so keep your Powder dry mate!

 

[LiveFreeX]

Get her an onion ring.

 

[Down Low]

Standard procedure is not to be a wishy-washy sissy boy, pvssyfooting around and trying to avoid straight talk.

If you want her to marry you, ask "Will you marry me?" If you didn't say precisely those words, and if she didn't say "Yes" without any "but..." you're not engaged. She's playing you for a fool. Dump her azz now.

 

[Desdinova]

Never give a woman what she wants, when she wants it. Tell her she'll get one when you think she's earned it.

 

[The Duke]

John1234- your girl is a manipulator and you are a puppet on a string. good luck.

 

[bmp2cpm]

It's a trap! Only a manipulative, control freak would do this. Stay and she'll control all aspects of your life forever. Leave and you can find a woman that follows your lead, as it should be.

Also, I've seen worse. I once saw a woman picking out her own engagement ring at the jewelry store all by herself.

 

[Epimanes]

Tell her it was a "promise ring." You promise to think about marrying her one of these days.

Hey! ... thats exactly what I did when i was 17 to my now wife. She finds that ring more important than the wedding ring.

To the OP. I would do that .. she will cherish that ring forever if you dont break up.

Epi

Edit to add that: When we got married ... we got our rings from a pawnshop lol (paid 300bux for BOTH rings lol)... didnt want a fancy expensive ring and my wife stressed this too. She told me she rather spend the extra money going on the honeymoon. SO thats what we did.
<3 mah wife!

 

[5string]

Should have got her an IUD

 

[Zarky]

OP is your girlfriend 12?

 

[Bokanovsky]

My GF said she really wants a ring for a present, she mentioned it was because she doent have one and just likes one. I say ok, I will think about it but I have something else in mind.

So I eventually buy a ring and on presenting it to her she says I have claimed her and we are now engaged! and told her friends? Is this standard procedure? and she was very very excited, so I have kept my cool.

I don't think you understand the meaning of the term "keeping your cool". If you are facing a deadly threat and manage to prevail by staying calm and collected, you are keeping your cool. If you are witnessing a scam being pulled on you and say nothing, you are just being a pvssy.

P.S. if a girl asked me to buy her a ring because "she didn't have one", I'd buy her this: http://www.nuvaring.com/Consumer/index.asp