"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
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"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
PRMoon
Master Don Juan
Can't argue with that logic.
Don_Joffe
Senior Don Juan
1. Your a wuss to buy her a drink
2. You need to "buy" the girl to have just to SPEAK to you
3. You sound like you prob go for *****s on the street
4. She will "use" you
5. Big chance she will consider you as a friend
6. You will show that you have no willpower
7. It shows that you are AFC.
8. Guys with no confidence and no looks buy girls drinks.
"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
PRMoon
Master Don Juan
*sigh* do I really have to go over this again?
Buying a girl a drink is not a cop out nor does it make you AFC, thre are litterally tons of factors that go into it. I really don't have time to address your little list, but I would say 7 of 8 things there definately do not apply to me.
I don't know what things are like for you guys over in south africa but this is a whole different world, an I am riding an entirely different wave from yours.
PRMoon
Master Don Juan
But I would say that I'm unsucessful either. I know when I have an in with a girl sometimes long before I go over or sometimes it's just moments into me breaking into a convo with a girl.
Conversely I know when I have an uphill battle ahead of me (after introducing myself) at which time I'll usually weigh my options and determine whether or not my time would be best spent somewhere else or I want to soldier it out.
It's not like this happen to me over night, It's not a gift. The experiences I've had over the years have some what honed my instincts about the women I meet.
"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
Don_Joffe
Senior Don Juan
Why? They are pickup lines and pickup lines dont work in today's society
NUMBER 1 might work because its ****y and funny but the other 2 wont, trust me on that, Try number 1 and if it doesnt work after 5 attemps then dont do it again cos it obv aint ever gonna work.
REMEMBER: pickup lines are for loosers. USE THE DON JUAN APPROACH.
PRMoon
Master Don Juan
Like I said its not about the drink, its about the guesture. You're willing to make a little sacrifice just to talk to them even for just a moment. Not all of them are out just to see what chump they can get to buy them drinks. Usually I'll know If I have a shot with a girl before I go in and buy them a drink. Sometimes I'm wrong and I lost, what $7 dollars at the most.
I just have feelings, it really doesn't matter what I do to get a girl to talk to me, I'll get in one way or the other but If I buy a girl a drink I usually have good a pretty positive outlook on the situation. The girl has been looking at me for an extended period of time or smiling at me or talking to her friend and pointing at me, or sometimes I just flat out know that I'm in.
It's game there are some intangibles.
PRMoon
Master Don Juan
“The 22 Rules That Flip the Script With Women… And How You Can Use Them Tonight”
Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.
Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers. Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.
I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.
PRMoon
Master Don Juan
The issue is risk vs reward, If I see a nice girl who's drink is more then half empty and she's giving me the look I see very little risk and very high reward...It's as simple as that.
PRMoon
Master Don Juan
I am so done with this thread so if you want to talk further about why I'm a definate expetion to the rule then I'm going to suggest the same thing aequitas said and tell you to PM me whenever you like.
Stick a fork in me...I'm done.
"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"
When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.
Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.
Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.
The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.