update after reading book of pook...

[fuzzball]

so i devoured book of pook in a matter of days(really eye opening great stuff). my church has singles wards which i have avoided for the past year because quite frankly over the past several years i have turned into a shriveled up bitter fearful old person. this provided a safe ground to socialize as well. so i finally decided after a year to go to one of these kinds of wards. having said that i geared myself up mentally to approach this differently. i approached it completely with this this is who i am and i am a great person mentality. i added a bit of outgoingness and confidence which was still me just trying to avoid some of the shy introvertedness because i can be extremely introverted.

we do fast sundays now and then where anyone can get up and speak. so i used this as an opportunity to rather than be the stupid shy quite guy to make myself known. for some reason i have an uncanny ability to give on the fly talks that people remember. and so i did. by the end of it everyone knew who i was. if i saw girls sitting there looking around and looking my way i stared them dead in the eye and made them turn their heads back like they got caught. i know one girl was checking me out and i caught her and she turned her head. she was pretty damn hot too(honestly once i got rid of as much fear and shame as i usually project eye contact wasnt near as nauseating as it usually is for me as i normally detest even a half second of eye contact). i socially inserted myself into a land of new people and got people to know my existence. i am sure i broke into the world of the girl network.

did i approach any girls cold? no. but that wasnt the point. the point was my mental attitude. i went there with the i am a great catch and this is me. i went in with confidence. i let people come to me. some of it was women telling me great talk. some of it was men just chatting with me as well.

this extended to other areas. i wasnt shy about where i was going to school or ashamed(dont ask me how i got to such a level of self defeating mental talk that i was ashamed of my major....psychology FYI). if conversations kind of hit that dull moment i used those standard conversation questions i hate such as "where are you from, what do you do etc." which are shockingly effective.

barring a mental breakdown this week i intend to start working out again and find some time to date myself(again amazing pook idea there hell i used to do it) and have fun embracing who i am. honestly it was a nice break from the usual mental destruction i tell myself which ranges from "i am a terrible person" to "I suck and am a loser worth nothing".

sure i was edgy and it wasnt completely smooth but i dont care. it was a wonderful first start. was it perfect? no. i certainly failed the eye contact a bit. i had moments of my shy self break through(hey i am introverted by nature and thats likely never changing). despite the presence of some rather hot girls i didnt buckle under the knee and somehow kept that "shes hot i am frozen and silent at bay". hell i actually argued for a good 10-15 seconds with a somewhat attractive girl. why'd i argue you say? she was being dumb. she thought if you had no fingerprints cops couldnt catch you so i explained no there was a guy like that who got caught simply because having no fingerprints is so rare. i think i made her half way mad. lol felt great.

i will say using the new found book of pook knowledge. i paid some careful attention as well(i am a people watcher by nature). i saw a guy who was clearly the forever doomed friendzone person in all his glory. the hot girl rambled on about ex-BF's and wanting to take him shopping again. its clear he is a friend forever. it was quite fascinating to see that dynamic with my new pook knowledge. whats worse is i am fairly certain he doesnt see it. hell i didnt see it in myself until recently.

so just want to say thanks for the book of pook. and also just applying a bit of confidence and outgoingness and embracing of oneself really can make a giant impact. also i hope i can keep it up. again i think it worked because my goal was not to get a woman. it was to be a confident independent male that knew who and what he is.

i cant believe i let this side of me die. wth was i smoking? my poor poor shriveled up manhood. what did i do to you? stay and never leave again. ill embrace it this time i swear. just give me time to kick it back into gear. it wont be easy i know. but work with me just this one final time. for all my glorious intellectual wisdom i was a fool in this one area. although i made use of my great intellect to get people to notice me....i mean no sense letting it go to waste right? play to my strengths and who i am and embrace it.

 

[Darkwolf32]

Poor stup!d fvck

 

[JohnChops]

Great stuff man. That was one of the best books I have ever read next to the djb. Look had kind of a hatred towards women, it felt like, but he really knew his sh1t.

 

[1-800-HellNo]

cool that you are getting your confidence back.
it's still really hard to read your post because you talk about getting up in front of your church and talking.
i know at 29 (or however old you are) it's gotta be really hard realizing you stand for something so ridiculously outlandish as the Bible.

i've gotten girls through church when i was younger (middle/high school) but that was because i made people laugh and was mysterious.

there are lots of opportunities to fvck b!tches through church, but to actually believe that stuff has to be a turn off to most women.

religion is just as big of a circle jerk as business, the only difference is it's a lot harder to profit off it.

 

[fuzzball]

cool that you are getting your confidence back.
it's still really hard to read your post because you talk about getting up in front of your church and talking.
i know at 29 (or however old you are) it's gotta be really hard realizing you stand for something so ridiculously outlandish as the Bible.

i've gotten girls through church when i was younger (middle/high school) but that was because i made people laugh and was mysterious.

there are lots of opportunities to fvck b!tches through church, but to actually believe that stuff has to be a turn off to most women.

religion is just as big of a circle jerk as business, the only difference is it's a lot harder to profit off it.

i have made my peace with the flaws and potential inaccuracies of religion, scripture, and people in church. none of that in my eyes takes away God being real. God is merely working with His flawed creations that constantly without fail act like rampant retards. He tells us something and the odds are we do the exact opposite. hell our parents tell us something and chances are do the exact opposite. i am not blind to such things. though i do appreciate what i suspect is sincere warning and concern since well you are right there are plenty of blind followers roaming around.

i think it depends on how you approach your beliefs quite honestly. there is the OMG you smoked you are going to hell dirt bag type of people then there are the somewhat reasonable and even more forgiving kind of people. i try and fall on the latter without sacrificing my morals or standards. the keyword TRY.

whether its a turn off....hmm hard to say. probably depends on the person honestly. though i am sure there are plenty of people that attend just to socialize but who knows for sure what the numbers are.

Great stuff man. That was one of the best books I have ever read next to the djb. Look had kind of a hatred towards women, it felt like, but he really knew his sh1t.

yea i agree i thought the same way at first. but his hilarious style of writing mixed with my absolute desperation kept me going and i am very glad i did. honestly reading it helped me dispel some of the hate i had towards women cause finally the insanity they appear to all do had some rhyme or reason to it even if it is illogical. i could at least kind of make sense of it.