"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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**** up my chances with a HB.

jxc

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I don't really care too much. Last night it did some real damage to my ego, but I woke up this morning not really caring too much. Sure it sucks, but atleast I learned from my mistake.

Everything was going perfect. I asked for her number, she told me she just moved and would let know as soon as she found out her number. I should of ended the convo right there, I had already made her laugh and we were deffinately at the "peak" of course conversation. Instead, I stuck around and tried talking more. But I wanted to seem like I was the one in control, she wasn't saying much. So I would start responding with one etc.. like "Interesting." I think that is the one word that pretty much killed it. I was waiting for her to start a discussion, but she was a tough cookie I guess. And after receiving a "Yeah... I guess.." I still didn't learn my lesson. I stuck around even longer and tried to "fix" my mistake. Ahhhhh. ****.

My advice, when you are at the peak of the convo.. get the **** out of there immediately. You have less of a chance of saying something that turns her off/bores her.. whatever.
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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I think she just wasn't interested.

"she told me she just moved and would let know as soon as she found out her number"
translation: no, you cannot have my number

how many girls do you know without a cellphone? i don't think they exist any longer
 

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mountain said:
I think she just wasn't interested.

"she told me she just moved and would let know as soon as she found out her number"
translation: no, you cannot have my number

how many girls do you know without a cellphone? i don't think they exist any longer
Yes I agree. Good work on approaching her at least. You didn't nothing wrong.
 
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