"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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saigonheadache

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What's going on Brothers. Need to hear what you gotta say about this. About 5 months ago I had it goin on you know. It's like I knew already that a girl was going to give me her number before I even approached her, I mean I just felt it you know. Well now all of this is gone. Whenever I picture approaching a girl I feel this really weak feeling in my gut. If I do start talking to a girl the conversation just turns out to be AFC-like and i just feel I'm not going nowhere. When I try C&F it comes across as rough not confident and smooth enough which makes me look like an *******. It got to a point where I dont even feel like getting out of bed. What's happening here, will I have to go through all that "first approach pain" again? Within these 5 months this what happened. Stoped working, had a gf for about 3 mths which i lost due to turning in afc (but I got out in time so now she's calling back). And right now I got like 4 numbers I could be working on but I cant do nothing untill i know I can approach strange women again, becasue that will put me back in position of power and choice so for now I am just ducking calls from my ex and the girls I know cause if I will pick up they will sense the disaster I'm in and I will lose those too. I'm so confused, please help me out
 

"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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Scought

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holy sh man

Cmon dude, are you for real? Dont want to get out of bed, why? that sounds almost suicidal or depressed. Damn, when you get to that point you just gotta say F the world, and do your thing.
You need to meet new people. Vent, workout. Cmon, man, get your ass outta bed for starters. Nothing is going to come to you that way. Go out with some friends.

Staying in bed is ridiculous. Im not here to be nice, im here to shake you outta this mess. So freakin do it already.

Damn. your complaining about a girl. Holy sheet. Far worse things to worry about. Who cares about what a girl thinks anyway.
IF you are at the poing where you dont care, thats a good point to be at, cause you can go out, have fun, and guess, what you dont care about S, you are just out ot have fun, and what happens happens.

Grow up man. Stop sulking. You had the mojo, then you laid low. Offseason is over. Go out to have fun first, everything else, including girls, is secondary. Get a grip, and talk to someone just to talk, if you want to approach. Act like you are going up asking her what time it is. You arent there for a number, you are just asking a question, then go from there. Im not sayin ask for the time, im just sayin have that mindset. Cmon now.
 

Sexual

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Originally posted by saigonheadache
you guys really think mating season has anything to do with this?
Whoa.

Go to a party with a bunch of guy friends and get trashed, hook up with the hottest sl*t you can that's equally trashed (and if not go for a 6 as long as her body is nice.. also try to get one from out of town or that nobody knows) and get out of your slump. Wear a condom if u decide to f*ck. It always gets my game back up to par.
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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jamesw82

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Always man, i go through it I think alot of people do...

Its life though, you have highs n lows, like a rollercoaster... you've just gotta do everything in your power to make the highs freakin awesome and damage limitation on the lows...

I think exercising has helped me loads dealing with periods of low confidence or depression, cos everyone feels good after a work out, and hey, you're getting fit too ! A bargain at twice the price!!!
 

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it's all about growing up from AFC to Master Don Juan bro. See Don Juans bounce back, theres like a million chicks out there! Learn from whatever mistake you made, and move on man.
 
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