"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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Unzip your woman suit!

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To all the guys that are intimidated by women,

You weren't emasculated by society, you were emasculated because you were excluded.

People don't develop phobias when they start reading the New York Times and watching Will & Grace. They develop phobias when they're young and impressionable. Now you've suffered the ramifications of a lack of social adjustment and the corresponding positive reinforcement. Kids in the corner are simply ignored. You've been coasting, probably for years or decades, on a false image of yourself.

If that is true, your damage is emotional.

The man, the person that has all of the natural traits of a Don Juan, is already part of you. Confidence is a bi-product of a man who acts without excessive forethought.

Strategies can sweeten the package, but they're just aspirin when what you need is surgery.

Unzip your woman suit.

Do this by recalling yourself before you were excluded. Feel who you really are. Meditate on this. It can take minute or years to remember who you were about to become before you were socially derailed.

Those guys without problems out there... They don't use strategies. They're not gods, they're just not SOCIALLY scarred. To catch up with them, first cast off who you aren't, then build new layers. In other words, catch up by practicing habitually. You can overtake them because they lack the understanding and discipline. (They never needed it.) It works.
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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Interesting way to put it. I think this explanation is more accurate than the media argument, although the media tends to exacerbate things.
 

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Or "unbutton" the woman suit!

Thanks Mike.
 

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Originally posted by Satori
Interesting way to put it. I think this explanation is more accurate than the media argument, although the media tends to exacerbate things.
I'd agree with that.

You first learn about your failings as a human male getting ignored or beaten up in the schoolyard ... all the happy, rich, and oversexed beautiful people on TV and in movies just keep it fresh over the long-term.
 

"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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Originally posted by Hornet
To all the guys that are intimidated by women,

You weren't emasculated by society, you were emasculated because you were excluded.

People don't develop phobias when they start reading the New York Times and watching Will & Grace. They develop phobias when they're young and impressionable. Now you've suffered the ramifications of a lack of social adjustment and the corresponding positive reinforcement. Kids in the corner are simply ignored. You've been coasting, probably for years or decades, on a false image of yourself.

If that is true, your damage is emotional.

The man, the person that has all of the natural traits of a Don Juan, is already part of you. Confidence is a bi-product of a man who acts without excessive forethought.

Strategies can sweeten the package, but they're just aspirin when what you need is surgery.

Unzip your woman suit.

Do this by recalling yourself before you were excluded. Feel who you really are. Meditate on this. It can take minute or years to remember who you were about to become before you were socially derailed.

Those guys without problems out there... They don't use strategies. They're not gods, they're just not SOCIALLY scarred. To catch up with them, first cast off who you aren't, then build new layers. In other words, catch up by practicing habitually. You can overtake them because they lack the understanding and discipline. (They never needed it.) It works.
Inside out man, inside out.
 
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