"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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Unzip your woman suit!

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To all the guys that are intimidated by women,

You weren't emasculated by society, you were emasculated because you were excluded.

People don't develop phobias when they start reading the New York Times and watching Will & Grace. They develop phobias when they're young and impressionable. Now you've suffered the ramifications of a lack of social adjustment and the corresponding positive reinforcement. Kids in the corner are simply ignored. You've been coasting, probably for years or decades, on a false image of yourself.

If that is true, your damage is emotional.

The man, the person that has all of the natural traits of a Don Juan, is already part of you. Confidence is a bi-product of a man who acts without excessive forethought.

Strategies can sweeten the package, but they're just aspirin when what you need is surgery.

Unzip your woman suit.

Do this by recalling yourself before you were excluded. Feel who you really are. Meditate on this. It can take minute or years to remember who you were about to become before you were socially derailed.

Those guys without problems out there... They don't use strategies. They're not gods, they're just not SOCIALLY scarred. To catch up with them, first cast off who you aren't, then build new layers. In other words, catch up by practicing habitually. You can overtake them because they lack the understanding and discipline. (They never needed it.) It works.
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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Interesting way to put it. I think this explanation is more accurate than the media argument, although the media tends to exacerbate things.
 

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Or "unbutton" the woman suit!

Thanks Mike.
 

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Originally posted by Satori
Interesting way to put it. I think this explanation is more accurate than the media argument, although the media tends to exacerbate things.
I'd agree with that.

You first learn about your failings as a human male getting ignored or beaten up in the schoolyard ... all the happy, rich, and oversexed beautiful people on TV and in movies just keep it fresh over the long-term.
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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Originally posted by Hornet
To all the guys that are intimidated by women,

You weren't emasculated by society, you were emasculated because you were excluded.

People don't develop phobias when they start reading the New York Times and watching Will & Grace. They develop phobias when they're young and impressionable. Now you've suffered the ramifications of a lack of social adjustment and the corresponding positive reinforcement. Kids in the corner are simply ignored. You've been coasting, probably for years or decades, on a false image of yourself.

If that is true, your damage is emotional.

The man, the person that has all of the natural traits of a Don Juan, is already part of you. Confidence is a bi-product of a man who acts without excessive forethought.

Strategies can sweeten the package, but they're just aspirin when what you need is surgery.

Unzip your woman suit.

Do this by recalling yourself before you were excluded. Feel who you really are. Meditate on this. It can take minute or years to remember who you were about to become before you were socially derailed.

Those guys without problems out there... They don't use strategies. They're not gods, they're just not SOCIALLY scarred. To catch up with them, first cast off who you aren't, then build new layers. In other words, catch up by practicing habitually. You can overtake them because they lack the understanding and discipline. (They never needed it.) It works.
Inside out man, inside out.
 
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