That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.
I'll bring the chloroform.Iceberg said:Dante, I totally lost my puppy a few hours ago. I was wondering if you'd hop in the back of my rape van and help me look for him.
Classic is right:yes: Has anyone seen my chifon evening dress? I can't seem to find it anywhere.....lakeshore said:Has to easily be the funniest thread on SS ever.
"I feel pretty stupid about this in retrospect.."
F*cking classic!
:crackup:
You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.
Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.
She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.
Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.
Haha, seriously. You really didn't know what was going on when you got into his car to drink a beer alone with him?Kailex said:More kino. He's doing really well so far... wait, you were having a beer in his car?
Hahahah :crackup:Ease said:Dante my gf's away for the week, i got some beers lying around, wanna come over?
Should tell you my heaters broke and overheating though, its cool we can just chill in our underwear.
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
8ball said:Relax. A gay guy thinks you're hot. This is not a bad thing. Means you're good looking.
Take it in stride and be cool.
And, take note: dancing in a gay bar yields much cash (if you have the mental fortitude).
laughed out loud! hit up my BlogTV pre-show to tomorrow's Lesson 1 on the M.A.C. systemAmazing said:Hey everyone this is the guy from the OP's story!
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
haha! funny stuff. my original comments stand.Amazing said:Hey everyone this is the guy from the OP's story!
8ball said:haha! funny stuff. my original comments stand.
Dante420 said:laughed out loud! hit up my BlogTV pre-show to tomorrow's Lesson 1 on the M.A.C. system
Your ****ing homo dude, get the **** outta here with your chump talk. your still trying to pass the insecurity stage and how old r u? 26? dawg if u think its even a question after the age of 13 then you needa look at yourself, people made their choices by nowAmazing said:Thanks but no thanks. But I'll pass it on to those guys I talked about earlier. It seems they can learn a thing or two about attracting dudes from you.
Dante420 said:Your ****ing homo dude, get the **** outta here with your chump talk. your still trying to pass the insecurity stage and how old r u? 26? dawg if u think its even a question after the age of 13 then you needa look at yourself, people made their choices by now
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.