"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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foamy

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ok, so as you may have read, I was really into this one girl, well now I really relized how AFC I was and reread the bible.
I broke contact with her, and am moving on to one of the other three girls I was pursuing.

Well, her best friend (I am around 95% sure) likes me, she is ... her ugly friend... like a 4-5 on the 10 scale.

I find the whole situation really creepy. She friended me on Myspace just because I was her friends friend. She msged me a while bunch asking me how I am and crap. Then she got my IM and msged me a whole bunch after, telling me how happy she is that I am her friends friend. I HAVE NEVER EVEN MET HER IN PERSON OR TALKED TO HER ON THE PHONE.
f-ing creepy if you ask me.

So, ya. Not hitting on that sh*t. I'd like a good way to tell her I'm not interested without being a jackace... I don't want her to like me more because I treat her badly. If I ignore her, wont she just be that more determent to "win me over"?

And also my reputation may be at stake, I know she is friends with a girl here that I really was interested in, and I am very well know here. I don't really want a cr*ppy rep. So no "F you, get the F away from me and never talk to me again". I dont think that would be good.

Thanks,

Foamy
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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NFC

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I hate that. I'm in the same situation. ****ing UGs and their damn ****blocking... just try and tell her in the most polite way possible. Or just keep ignoring her, maybe she will get the hint and get tired of chasing.
 

Juan_Man

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Introduce her to a friend of yours who is better looking than you. I'm in a similar situation but unfortunately I haven't found the right guy for the part.
 

foamy

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thanks,

the situation got much worse yesterday, now she believes (By the sound of it) that we're soul mates... WTF.

and its really complicated because her friend, the one that I liked, went to her for advice, so I have no idea what the carp is going to happen.
eh, whatever

I think I just need to disappear from her for a week or so.


Anyone seen the movie "Swim Fan"?... I hope that siht doesn't go down.
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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the next time her friend messages you, ask her a million questions about the chick you like.
who is she dating?
does she like to xxx(whatever you can think of )
until the friend takes the hint.
 
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