"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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flyinshark

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Yeah, here's a great tip. Don't always look your best!

As in, don't always dress with your nicest clothes, don't always put your best perfume, don't always have your hair at its best, wear your glasses instead of contacts, and so on...

When you finally decide to look your best, say for a special occasion, all your friends and relatives will be in admiration of your looks. Needless to say, you will love the feeling!

Apply this to your 1st date with a chick you have known for some time and who has seen you looking "ordinary". Impress the heck outta her on your date, and your chance of success will be higher!

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"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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check_mate_kid_uk

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i see where oyur comming from, but surely you should try and look good every time, only do the 'speacial effort' thing if doing it really takes a special effort, otherwise you are just going out looking less then you could, which is only going to be a disadvantage.
 

flyinshark

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Originally posted by check_mate_kid_uk
i see where oyur comming from, but surely you should try and look good every time, only do the 'speacial effort' thing if doing it really takes a special effort, otherwise you are just going out looking less then you could, which is only going to be a disadvantage.
Yes, yes, true. I am not tryin to say that you should ALWAYS look crappy, hehe.

So let me tweak it a bit more like this: Look crappy from time to time, but not too often either. Just make sure you don't always, and i mean always, look your best.

I know i try to look my best every single day, so this advice is for people like me.
 

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and how exactly would you do this then? because i also always look my best, i wear my best clothes all the time. I guess the only diffrence between if i was going out with my parents or on a date is that i would make sure i shower and shave on the same day for the latter, either way i sitll put wax on my fringe, and either way i never wear cologne.
 

flyinshark

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Go out unshaved for a week. Wear your not-so-nice clothes on those days when you feel like not giving a **** about what people might think of your appearance...Stuff like that.
 

"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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This logic I sort of follow by, I go unshaven for a couple of days, I dress down (sometimes its just not important to me), I don't fix my hair (it's short, what I mean is I don't style it). This is just a change up, once you have established a reputation of consistently dressing nice then, you can fall back and change your style every so often (don't remain the same all the time because thats boring).
 

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I thought you do the opposite with ladies


Dress your best all the time, have your hair gelled and all... then on the date,

Dress crappy, and not take a shower..


Makes her think that your not there to impress her, and she thinks she isn't worth being dressed up for.
 

flyinshark

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Originally posted by bbestar
I thought you do the opposite with ladies


Dress your best all the time, have your hair gelled and all... then on the date,

Dress crappy, and not take a shower..


Makes her think that your not there to impress her, and she thinks she isn't worth being dressed up for.
Is that sarcasm?
 

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Originally posted by bbestar
I thought you do the opposite with ladies


Dress your best all the time, have your hair gelled and all... then on the date,

Dress crappy, and not take a shower..


Makes her think that your not there to impress her, and she thinks she isn't worth being dressed up for.
yeah, this is actually quite true asswell man, they both work supringly well if you trying to create an impression...

if you can gain her attraction when you look normal then you will usually blow her mind if you lookin hot...
and if your always dressing to impress then she will wonder why if your not trying to impress her, she will start going through those crazy "thinking in depth" stages of attraction...
 

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Originally posted by catch
yeah, this is actually quite true asswell man, they both work supringly well if you trying to create an impression...

if you can gain her attraction when you look normal then you will usually blow her mind if you lookin hot...
and if your always dressing to impress then she will wonder why if your not trying to impress her, she will start going through those crazy "thinking in depth" stages of attraction...
That's rediculous. Stop thinking so much.
 

"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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meh...wise man once told me

"better overdressed than underdressed"
 
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