"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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Yeah, here's a great tip. Don't always look your best!

As in, don't always dress with your nicest clothes, don't always put your best perfume, don't always have your hair at its best, wear your glasses instead of contacts, and so on...

When you finally decide to look your best, say for a special occasion, all your friends and relatives will be in admiration of your looks. Needless to say, you will love the feeling!

Apply this to your 1st date with a chick you have known for some time and who has seen you looking "ordinary". Impress the heck outta her on your date, and your chance of success will be higher!

Thank You! Now send me your donations and life savings for such a great post that sure enlightened you!
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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i see where oyur comming from, but surely you should try and look good every time, only do the 'speacial effort' thing if doing it really takes a special effort, otherwise you are just going out looking less then you could, which is only going to be a disadvantage.
 

flyinshark

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Originally posted by check_mate_kid_uk
i see where oyur comming from, but surely you should try and look good every time, only do the 'speacial effort' thing if doing it really takes a special effort, otherwise you are just going out looking less then you could, which is only going to be a disadvantage.
Yes, yes, true. I am not tryin to say that you should ALWAYS look crappy, hehe.

So let me tweak it a bit more like this: Look crappy from time to time, but not too often either. Just make sure you don't always, and i mean always, look your best.

I know i try to look my best every single day, so this advice is for people like me.
 

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and how exactly would you do this then? because i also always look my best, i wear my best clothes all the time. I guess the only diffrence between if i was going out with my parents or on a date is that i would make sure i shower and shave on the same day for the latter, either way i sitll put wax on my fringe, and either way i never wear cologne.
 

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Go out unshaved for a week. Wear your not-so-nice clothes on those days when you feel like not giving a **** about what people might think of your appearance...Stuff like that.
 

"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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This logic I sort of follow by, I go unshaven for a couple of days, I dress down (sometimes its just not important to me), I don't fix my hair (it's short, what I mean is I don't style it). This is just a change up, once you have established a reputation of consistently dressing nice then, you can fall back and change your style every so often (don't remain the same all the time because thats boring).
 

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I thought you do the opposite with ladies


Dress your best all the time, have your hair gelled and all... then on the date,

Dress crappy, and not take a shower..


Makes her think that your not there to impress her, and she thinks she isn't worth being dressed up for.
 

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Originally posted by bbestar
I thought you do the opposite with ladies


Dress your best all the time, have your hair gelled and all... then on the date,

Dress crappy, and not take a shower..


Makes her think that your not there to impress her, and she thinks she isn't worth being dressed up for.
Is that sarcasm?
 

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Originally posted by bbestar
I thought you do the opposite with ladies


Dress your best all the time, have your hair gelled and all... then on the date,

Dress crappy, and not take a shower..


Makes her think that your not there to impress her, and she thinks she isn't worth being dressed up for.
yeah, this is actually quite true asswell man, they both work supringly well if you trying to create an impression...

if you can gain her attraction when you look normal then you will usually blow her mind if you lookin hot...
and if your always dressing to impress then she will wonder why if your not trying to impress her, she will start going through those crazy "thinking in depth" stages of attraction...
 

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Originally posted by catch
yeah, this is actually quite true asswell man, they both work supringly well if you trying to create an impression...

if you can gain her attraction when you look normal then you will usually blow her mind if you lookin hot...
and if your always dressing to impress then she will wonder why if your not trying to impress her, she will start going through those crazy "thinking in depth" stages of attraction...
That's rediculous. Stop thinking so much.
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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meh...wise man once told me

"better overdressed than underdressed"
 
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